Thread: Prison Relationships Question

For those in prison relationships what helped you make the decision to be in a relationship with those in prison? Especially the ones who have life in prison or on deathrow? I am curious because feelings can develop between two people but what was the deciding factor for you to be with someone that you cannot touch, or make love to? It is a big sacrifice of love and I would like to get more insight to it.

This is a very personal question and many may choose not to answer. My situation is different in that we were a couple before his incarceration, rather than the other way round. He has a life sentence. Why am I with him? For the same reason as any other woman is with her man (both free world and prison) - I love him. Simple as that.

As my signature says, whilst I breathe, I have hope. I will always have hope. Hope that his appeal will be successful, hope that there will be a radical change in sentencing policy and law and life sentences for non-violent crimes will be cancelled, hope that one day I'll see him walk out of that place for good.

There was never any question of standing by him. Just because he is in prison doesn't mean I love him any less than before he went in. It's a difficult life. It's a crazy life. But it's our life. I dont need to justify it to anyone. We are where we are and we're in it together.

And your question was?

Yes......Definitely. Hit Me Over The Head Like A Ton Of Bricks.

What was the factor that made you decide to marry an inmate?

I asked this question for a reason, I am not asking you to justify your decision, it is yours. I was with you smiling until the end of your message. It is what it is, its your life, your choice, your relationship. I felt you got a little critical at the end when all I was seeking was others thoughts on the question. We are to support each other. Yes your situation is different, my question was for those that met while writing and decided to marry someone in prision. If you did not want to justify your life maybe this question was not for you to answer. I don't mean no disrespect, but I feel like you got aggravated at the end of your post. I am glad you are with the one you love and you are in it together, some will never know this type of love which is why I asked this question in the first place. May you be blessed in all things.

I met my husband through writing and the reason I married him is because I love him same way as I would love him if he was in the military and away in theatre for months at a time just because we are kept apart by distance and prison bars does not mean I love him any less

Hi Gerri,

Thank you for being honest what you said was beautiful and it helped me think about love conquers all. Will be counting the days until your anniversary!

Originally Posted by prophetessacorn

For those in prison relationships what helped you make the decision to be in a relationship with those in prison? Especially the ones who have life in prison or on deathrow? I am curious because feelings can develop between two people but what was the deciding factor for you to be with someone that you cannot touch, or make love to? It is a big sacrifice of love and I would like to get more insight to it.

Real love is worth the wait. It's eluded me my whole life and when the universe comes together and lays before you something you thought to be a myth, I would be a fool to ignore it!! I'm patient and have no issue with maintaining celibacy until he is released. I'm not your average type person though. I can only speak for myself. I look at it like, he's away at war and truly, I'm not missing out on anything as far as dating goes here in the free world, been there done that a million times.

I didn't get aggravated by the question. I have to be a lot tougher than to get aggravated by someone's question.

I just wonder why people want to pry into the personal relationships of others just because they are less than conventional. You wouldn't ask a couple at the table next to you in a restaurant enjoying a romantic meal why they are together. The answer is obvious - because they love each other. Why should it be any different? It seemed like an odd question to ask, that's all.

I wanted to reply to show you that our love is as real as any other couple's love and there is nothing much else to say about it.