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    After so long in prison, independent decision making can become difficult. You get told what to do all the time...and that becomes ingrained and difficult to break out of...so that can lead to the sort of answers you've been getting...the whatever you make to eat is alright with me...so ask him what he used to eat when he was a kid? What sort of food really grosses him out? Tell him what your daughter might have cooked and see if he makes any response to that?

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    Well lucky him he only got 25, but still I think being 16 your mind is not fully developed and children shouldn't be charged so harshly. My guy had an assault charge at 17 and he is getting like 6 years smh

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    Quote Originally Posted by februarymoon View Post
    I'd start by meeting him face to face first. Call me old-fashioned but I like to see and get to know the person I'm moving into my home before they arrive with their bags.

    What about your children? Are you not concerned about how this huge transition will affect them? He's a grown man and can sort himself out, he knows what he needs to do. Your children are relying on you to make the right decisions for them.
    I'm in the process yet again to get on his visit list, it's been an ongoing fight with the fed. My children are fine with him and everything..they are 18,16,12 so before he comes home they are all going to be grown and in theory moved out..it's always a theory these days. We have a lot of blood family locked up so they are used to dealing with ex cons for lack of a better term.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Earthmother View Post
    After so long in prison, independent decision making can become difficult. You get told what to do all the time...and that becomes ingrained and difficult to break out of...so that can lead to the sort of answers you've been getting...the whatever you make to eat is alright with me...so ask him what he used to eat when he was a kid? What sort of food really grosses him out? Tell him what your daughter might have cooked and see if he makes any response to that?
    i'm going to try that. only thing i know for sure is he loves cheesecake as much as i do (only vegan cheat i have) and he wants me to make the deep dish pizza style i make. i don't get mad at him really for the way he answers my question, it just annoys me sometimes. i know the ideal of vegan kind of grosses him out, but he still says i'll eat whatever you make me.

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    Quote Originally Posted by SarahMiller View Post
    Well lucky him he only got 25, but still I think being 16 your mind is not fully developed and children shouldn't be charged so harshly. My guy had an assault charge at 17 and he is getting like 6 years smh
    he was 15 when it happen, they just did not catch him until 16...he was caught up in the gang life...even his mother tells me he is not the boy he was...that his whole mentality has changed. she laughs at me sometimes cause i'm trying to get stuff ready so early and we don't even really have a set outdate cause it will change based on good time and stuff..but she is happy that he will come to my place, cause she does not want him to come to the Rez until he is ok being in the freeworld, we both want to keep him as far away from trouble as we can until he is less prison mind and more freeworld mind if that makes sense.

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    Quote Originally Posted by PixieWings View Post
    he was 15 when it happen, they just did not catch him until 16...he was caught up in the gang life...even his mother tells me he is not the boy he was...that his whole mentality has changed. she laughs at me sometimes cause i'm trying to get stuff ready so early and we don't even really have a set outdate cause it will change based on good time and stuff..but she is happy that he will come to my place, cause she does not want him to come to the Rez until he is ok being in the freeworld, we both want to keep him as far away from trouble as we can until he is less prison mind and more freeworld mind if that makes sense.
    Good luck to ya! I don't know anyone in prison, this is my first time dealing with it. But his brothers and everyone he knows were in and out of prison he said he knew he would end up there. That **** pissed me off like learn from that and do better. But whatever yeah I'm sure your man changed a lot. He was just a baby. Sucks that stuff like that still goes on.

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    i have some friends that did not learn from family history of being locked up...i have a total of 7 cousins currently locked up,and a few getting ready to go back and yeah hey are always going in and out, but they are family and i love them...but they get a card from me once a month telling them i think they is so very stupid..and they write back yes pixie i'm stupid but you love me and thank you for the card and not leaving me.

    I'm lucky i have support of his family and my family...i'm just worried i will fail him in some stupid way. i will do something so simple that i don't even think about like the whole closet space thing, and hurt his feelings..i know how silly it all sounds, but we have a lot of time left to do so i'm just stressing over foolish things i guess.

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    Quote Originally Posted by PixieWings View Post
    i have some friends that did not learn from family history of being locked up...i have a total of 7 cousins currently locked up,and a few getting ready to go back and yeah hey are always going in and out, but they are family and i love them...but they get a card from me once a month telling them i think they is so very stupid..and they write back yes pixie i'm stupid but you love me and thank you for the card and not leaving me.

    I'm lucky i have support of his family and my family...i'm just worried i will fail him in some stupid way. i will do something so simple that i don't even think about like the whole closet space thing, and hurt his feelings..i know how silly it all sounds, but we have a lot of time left to do so i'm just stressing over foolish things i guess.
    Wow, don't even feel that way. You are trying your best and he shouldn't get upset or have his feelings hurt for something silly and unintended.

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    Quote Originally Posted by PixieWings View Post
    I'm in the process yet again to get on his visit list, it's been an ongoing fight with the fed. My children are fine with him and everything..they are 18,16,12 so before he comes home they are all going to be grown and in theory moved out..it's always a theory these days. We have a lot of blood family locked up so they are used to dealing with ex cons for lack of a better term.
    Well you know the rules with federal prisons and visitor lists. If you didn't know him beforehand then it's going to be very difficult to get on his list.

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    Quote Originally Posted by SarahMiller View Post
    Wow, don't even feel that way. You are trying your best and he shouldn't get upset or have his feelings hurt for something silly and unintended.
    i can be a really emotional person at times, so i worry over the most silly things at time to be 100% honest.

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