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    Hi!

    I am wonder something, to what degree does WAP.com verify the information that a prisoner gives them?

    I'm a gay male and I have taken it upon myself to write to other young gay men in my age range. Not for dates or love, but because I would want someone to write me if I were in prison and this is how I decided on who I am going to write.

    But some of the prisoner's crimes are either not consistent with them being gay (i.e., rape of a female) or I have written to them and they're like "wtf? I'm not gay".

    I don't know how prisoners go about getting on WAP.com, so I dunno how it works. Do they put up the profile themselves? Do they have friends or family do it? Do they contact you guys and then you do it?

    I hate to waste my time and the time of others writing to people whom I have no interest in talking to and who have no interest in talking to me. I also don't want to start any trouble with anyone or put them in an ackward spot while they're in prison, either.

    Any thoughts?

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    There is a gay test on each WAP.com form that the inmate must pass before being allowed to be labeled as gay.

    Ok so that's not true obviously! Inmates can put themselves on WAP through a flyer which they fill out and mail in, or through familiy members and friends.

    Much of the info on their ad is verified, and some ads are even photo verified. There is no way to check sexual orientation though.
    Your best bet is just keep writing until you find what you are looking for. There are of course inmates who label themselves as gay for personal gain. At the same time though I'm sure there are gay inmates who are on the down low since they are in general population.

    Maybe try being a little less forward about your sexual orientation? Some of those inmates who said "wtf I'm not gay" may have said it for their own protection? They could be in the closet and don't want to be outed by a CO who read the letter. I'm not saying to hide the fact that you're gay, just trying to give a possible reason an ad listed as gay would respond in such a manner. Perhaps it was just a typo?

    Others will probably disagree with me about that, but when I wrote to my straight female pen-pals I didn't annouce I was straight. It was for friendship so what does my sexual orientation have to do with it in the beginning?

    Anways, good luck!

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    Well, I am writing to them BECAUSE they are gay AND BECAUSE they are +/- 1 year of my age (24-26). So usually I tell them WHY I am writing, because obviously we haven't communicated before.

    I was thinking about that, though, the whole thing about CO reading their mail and I didn't really see any way around it. That's the only form of communication I have with them so if they can't be open then I think they shouldn't have put that in their profile or had it put in their profile.

    I also got the impression that some people may say they're gay for personal gain, but I couldn't think of any concrete ways in which this would be advantageous. Can you tell me how this might be of benefit to them so I know to be on the lookout?

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    Hey, I will warn you about Kentucky... for some reason, this state seems to generate a lot of "pretend" gay ads that guys have had troubles with. Just be warned that if you do write to someone from KY who claims to be gay, it may be a "think twice" moment, I'm sorry to say. If you search through old WAP threads I'm sure you can find out all about it. It seems to be ongoing as just the other day there was a post about it.

    I'm a little confused about your post, is that you wrote to guys who stated they were gay in the ad and then said "wtf I'm not gay" to you? Could it be that the ad was mistaken, a typo like Tyler said?

    I can only say, because I really don't know how you went about it, don't write to guys that state that they are looking for female company because yes, a lot of them will not want a male writer. Some ads do state "any gender" and that's great. Just make sure you read carefully what the inmate is specifying. I have a nice guy that I write to and he was dismayed that gay guys were writing to him even though he had specified "women" in his ad. Not that he is against gay guys but merely stating his preference as I think we are all allowed to do. Is it that you wrote to "any gender ok" ads and yet when they heard you were gay they had that reaction? I can see that happening.

    If you want to talk to other gay guys just for companionship, are you looking for sure in the sexual preference box? Not sure what that could mean if they said yes I'm gay and then write back, no, I'm not unless like Tyler said they're trying to be on the low down??

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    Quote Originally Posted by jholiday View Post
    Well, I am writing to them BECAUSE they are gay AND BECAUSE they are +/- 1 year of my age (24-26). So usually I tell them WHY I am writing, because obviously we haven't communicated before.

    I was thinking about that, though, the whole thing about CO reading their mail and I didn't really see any way around it. That's the only form of communication I have with them so if they can't be open then I think they shouldn't have put that in their profile or had it put in their profile.

    I also got the impression that some people may say they're gay for personal gain, but I couldn't think of any concrete ways in which this would be advantageous. Can you tell me how this might be of benefit to them so I know to be on the lookout?
    What's been said about it in the past is that there is some misconception that single gay men that write prisoners are maybe some kind of fountain of kindness (read: money/stuff) and it's a ploy to go through your heart (or body) to your wallet. THAT is the thing to be careful of.

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    I got you. Thank you.

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    I can totally understand that you wish to write to a gay guy, if you are gay. Maybe you just have more common ground and more of a conversation initially.

    I think Tyler is probably right. The co's read the letters. the not so nice ones poke their noses in to stir trouble or just get a kick out of it, before you know it everyone knows and that puts that person in a vulnerable postition. So it could be that whoever wrote that was protecting themselves, even though they put 'gay' on the ad. Of course it could be an error, it happens. Especially if it were someone putting it on for them who maybe put two or three on at a time etc..

    If you read through the threads you will find active forum users who are male and gay, I'll risk talking for them and say I'm sure they would only be too happy to help you with the initial 'how to approach' in letters. Shame I know, It s just another thing to add to the list of comlpications that can occur when writing to inamte pp's.


    Good luck....

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