Do any of you talk to your kids about having a pen pal in prison, or do you think it's not appropriate? My son is 11, and I have told him all about having one, and he thinks it's a really cool thing to do. He is a very sensitive kid, and one of the first things he said to me was, "I would be really sad in prison, I wish someone would write to me." What are your thoughts about this?

Aww thats sweet...yeh my son will be 13 very soon and iv spoken to him about my guy, hes even written a letter himself, just to introduce himself, he is pretty sensitive too..since i talk to my guy all the time about my kid then when i spoke to my son he wanted to write to him too.He was pretty happy when he got a drawing and a couple of letters back.

My son's were both young men when I started my PP journey so I included them in everything, and now I am marrying my fiance they both are happy and sad that he is going to be away from us for some years, but they did not have any undue concerns in fact if mail comes when I am at the office I get a txt from the oldest son saying you have mail from "Pa" lol but that is just a bit of fun between us

Cute stories, I don't see why you shouldn't tell you kids - if you knew your pen pal well and have a good friendship that is.

I once read a story about a woman who made her kids call her pen pal 'Daddy' and all kinds of sh!t, that was messed up!

Originally Posted by karleigh

Cute stories, I don't see why you shouldn't tell you kids - if you knew your pen pal well and have a good friendship that is.

I once read a story about a woman who made her kids call her pen pal 'Daddy' and all kinds of sh!t, that was messed up!

your absolutely right.....thats one thing id NEVER do...that is messed up....my son has a dad (even though hes a crap one) but he knows him...that would just mess with your kids life. Not into that at all.

He only calls him PA to tease me, like Fee said both my kids know who there real father is, I would never subject my children to that, that is so messed up

It sure is Gerri.....your boys are being funny with you thats so different from this other woman who let her kids call her guy daddy...wtf is going on in her mind?

I think the story was on here a lil while ago, I'll try find it

I think i read that did she move across the country to be close to him and he is serving LWOP or something like that,

My kids know about my pp's - and my youngest (who's now 11) has written letters to my main pp and he's replied and sent stuff through to him too. I think it's best to share this sort of thing with my kids...they hear the bad and sad stuff that my pp's have endured whilst locked up, and I'm hoping it scares them into keeping their noses clean!!