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Incarcerated Loved Ones Discuss I need an advice please in the Prison Related forums; Originally Posted by sunray's wench If you are in love with him and he with you, then he's not your ...
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    Quote Originally Posted by sunray's wench View Post
    If you are in love with him and he with you, then he's not your penpal anymore, he is your "significant other" (to borrow the phrase from another thread), so you need to stop thinking of him as your penpal and start thinking of him as someone who just stepped out to the shop for a minute.

    You need to bring him fully into your life. If you haven't told your family and friends, you need to do that. Don't hide him away. Tell him all about everything you do and include him in the decision-making process for things that don't need an immediate answer. Build the future together, not individually, but live in the present. There are 1001 things that could happen to take that future away from you, so keep it in mind, but do your living today. live for both of you, not just yourself. Do more not less.
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    Of course you should live normally,even flert and date,how do you know there isn't someone that suits you better out here?
    If he was outside and you were in prison would he stop having a life?Would he even write you in the first place?Probably not.So don't even think about just waiting for him.

    I may sound a bit harsh but I just wanted to make clear how strongly I believe what I'm saying.
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    Of course you should live normally,even flert and date,how do you know there isn't someone that suits you better out here?
    If he was outside and you were in prison would he stop having a life?Would he even write you in the first place?Probably not.So don't even think about just waiting for him.

    I may sound a bit harsh but I just wanted to make clear how strongly I believe what I'm saying.
    If they are not in a committed relationship then I would agree with you. But once you make a commitment, then imo, it doesn't really matter if your favourite movie star rocks up and begs you for a date, you honour your commitment or you end it. But I realise that a lot of people don't live like that.
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    Quote Originally Posted by katharinalee View Post
    I need an advice, if you are in love with your pp, and he had six years left (perhaps more) how you handle your normal outside life. Are you able to put it away from your head, have only the look at the future? Countdown, day by day and live normal, means going out with friends and the whole regular stuff, or are you depressed and lonely sometimes - I ask myself it is possible to be both a standard living people and a loved one with a person in prison?
    My L/O has 7 yrs to go...it's going to be very hard but not as hard as it will be for him.

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