Well im not saying your crazy. BUT. you really need to think things through a LOT BETTER than you are doing..

I agree with others where they say, you cant look to inmates as a captive dating system, just because you think you cant get a man on the outside. so i wont bother adding to that.

you say. he seems like a good guy despite the serious crime he commited, which i dont disagree with, most can be nice.
you say he has 8 years left so im guessing it was a pretty big charge he went down for.
so im also gonna guess that NO adoption agency would touch you. you really have to ask yourself do you want to forfeit kids? and grandkids?? would a guy that you dont even know yet. really be worth giving ALL that up for? especially as its something you want..

Originally Posted by FreakLikeMe

Well im not saying your crazy. BUT. you really need to think things through a LOT BETTER than you are doing..

I agree with others where they say, you cant look to inmates as a captive dating system, just because you think you cant get a man on the outside. so i wont bother adding to that.

you say. he seems like a good guy despite the serious crime he commited, which i dont disagree with, most can be nice.
you say he has 8 years left so im guessing it was a pretty big charge he went down for.
so im also gonna guess that NO adoption agency would touch you. you really have to ask yourself do you want to forfeit kids? and grandkids?? would a guy that you dont even know yet. really be worth giving ALL that up for? especially as its something you want..

Very well thought out and nicely said Freak!

By the way guys, it wasn't just one letter. We had been emailing back and before before we started writing letters. But all of you are right, I need to slow down and be careful with this. Thanks for looking out for me.

I thank everyone for their advice. I fully agree with you guys and I am going to be realistic and take things slowly. I don't need any more responses to this thread because I already received plenty of advice. Thank you.

Originally Posted by VAGradStudent

Hey everyone,
From the second I saw his profile on writeaprisoner.com, I was very drawn to him and compelled to write to him. He has eight more years left in his sentence. Receiving his first letter in the mail today was magical. I can feel the sparks even though I haven't met him yet. My gut instinct tells me that he is a good person despite the serious crime he committed. I believe that people can change if they really want to and take the necessary steps to create change from within.
I can't stop thinking about him, I truly feel a connection. Am I crazy? Could this ever work? This type of relationship is very taboo in the United States. But I feel like there is no turning back. At the very least, I would like to form a friendship bond with him. Inside, I am growing really hopeful that this could turn into a deeply fulfilling relationship.
Does anyone have any advice for me about whether I should open myself up to a possible romance? I am 30 years old and he is 35. I want children and if I become seriously involved with him, I would have to forfeit having my own kids and adopt children, which I am very open to doing.
I may be getting ahead of myself but I have the tendency to get overly excited when I become interested in a man. My parents became alarmed so I stopped talking about it with them so that they would hopefully forget about it. My best friend is very supportive of my growing interest and fascination with my new penpal. I just pray that I am not setting myself up for pain and disappointment.
I can relate to him because some unfortunate things happened in my past and I was incarcerated for 7 months due to no fault of my own and I was later found innocent. I believe the system punished me unjustly. I know how painful and difficult it is to be behind bars. I think that is part of what draws me to him, I can relate to his pain and suffering.

The VAgradstudent username makes this post seem odd, almost like it was scripted.

I'm just going to say this even though it might not be a popular opinion. IF what you write is true and I emphasis the word IF, you really need serious help. I can't even write a response because after each sentence it screams "RED FLAG".

Lots of women have children in their 40's so I wouldn't say you'd have to adopt and honestly it might be the only way you will be able to have children as I don't think adoption agencies generally place children with former prisoners *I might be wrong on this!*

If one of the reasons why you are drawn to him is because you know what life behind bars is like and you know his pain and suffering then you could of closed your eyes and pointed to any prisoner and chose him that way.

I wish I knew who your penpal was because frankly you scare me and I would like to warn him.

Originally Posted by VAGradStudent

I thank everyone for their advice. I fully agree with you guys and I am going to be realistic and take things slowly. I don't need any more responses to this thread because I already received plenty of advice. Thank you.

I'm pretty sure you are going to get more responses and more advice than you want. Happy reading.

Thanks for being so nasty to me.

I won't be reading any more posts so type whatever you want; I won't be reading it. Have fun being rude to someone you don't know.

Oh for goodness sake, not again!

You ask for advice on an open forum, you have to be prepared for all kinds of opinions. I'm beginning to wonder if this is the same person over and over with different accounts because the same toddler tantrum is getting old.

I'm not being rude, I'm being HONEST. Did you post this to have everyone agree with you and give you a nice answer? Why would you even come to a forum and post something like this and then state "I'm not going to be reading anymore posts". YOU ASKED FOR ADVICE. I am simply giving you my observation. I stand by my original post that you need serious help.