Hi all, the best thing to do is; keep to yourself, blend into the walls so to speak, constantly watch your back and rely on nobody for help, don't barrow, keep your personal things to yourself (tear off the return addresses from your mail and flush them down the tiolet), lock your stuff up, befriend your bunkie if you can, don't snitch or tell, be prepared to fight if confronted...don't back down!, listen to the CO's no matter how ridiculous it sounds, stay out of places the best you can where CO's can't see you... ie: stairways, dark corners and the such, mind your 'own' business, never give out any personal info regardless how minor it may seem, and remember... this is not a social gathering... you're not there to make life long friends unless you're doing life. Don't be scared, you'll survive if you stick to these fundamentals and the guidence the others have given you, always remember, it's prison, so don't let your guard down, things happen quickly behind the walls... avoid all that you can, especially when your release date is coming up, try not to let anyone inside know when it is, as some will try to screw it by getting you in trouble so you'll catch another charge to make you stay longer. I wish ya the best of luck, and time passes quickly for you.
I remember Jon saying the same thing in letters to me as he was coming close to his release date.
He knew not to let anyone know that date was close, they will try to screw it up and get you in trouble, made him leary even more so, along with the normal thoughts and emotions of being out,after so long.
Peanut that is very true that both bosses and other prsiners will mess with you if they know you are getting released . I knew the date and kept it to my self . I don't know if TDCJ does this all the time but a few days before I was released around 2 am a boss came to my cubicle and said quietly pack your shi# all of it . That had me unnerved I asked why and where I was going her reply was "I have no idea I was told to get you and your going on the chain van . " I asked rank they said "To a differnt unit I do not know where. You will find out when you get there." I think one of them knew but could not say . I was more surprised they were driving chain vans at that hour and hoping that this was not some cruel game that TDCJ loves to play . I ended up at the Walls where all man are released and kept out of poulation . They do this for your protection and theirs because of the law suits that will follow should anything happen to you just prior to release
Release is a emotional time for every one . There are a lot of tears and people just hugging each other not wanting to let go once you hit the parking lot and your loved ones are waiting for you. .
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I'm new here and frankly, scared to death of going to prison. I'm not sure how long I'll be there, my trial is this summer and no plea has been offered yet, but I'm guessing 7 years at least. I've never gotten in a fight in my life, I'm a shy, giving person, and all I can think is I'm gonna get killed when I get there! It's state prison. I know I sound like a whimp - I guess I am. I've been a mom and wife for over 20 years and this is all so new to me. I was in county jail for 6 weeks and survived it, but prison just sounds too overwhelming to me. Any words of wisdom for the scardey-cat?
keep your chin up, remember all those who love you on the outside, as you will be in there thoughts every moment of everyday,
i dont think your a wimp , everybody is scared of the unknown , and when it becomes a reality, it worries us more
you might be away physically from your loved ones, but your mind holds all those special moments that will keep you going
take one day at a time, then it becomes a little less daunting, but always remember you will be going home, to all those people who missed you as much as you missed them
does anyone or has anyone read this that is going ty prison? the best advice to offer is to keep a low profile and keep busy. take classes or join building trades or anything to pass the time. If all else fails go to chapel as often as you can. However this advice often falls on deaf ears because people who are likely to goto prison are used to "being in the mix". Meaning they crave attention and get into trouble. Alot of young kids get in there and find dealing with contraband is fun and exciting and a quick way to get popular. Its also a good way to take a tuna can to the head. Anyways...wish this advice would help just one person pull it through.
Sher have you gone the Fed website for the facility you are entering? You will be ahead of the game if you know the rules for the facility before you get there as long as you keep your mouth shut. No one likes a know it all that says it out loud. Know the rules back and forth before you go in don't make trouble for the COs but be a warrior for yourself.
If you have enough time, find a self defense class, a boot camp anything that will teach you how to protect yourself from anyone you don't want to hurt you, make you do acts you don't want to do or make you do anything that will jeopardize a chance of parole.
Initially, be prepared to strip down, (Moderator Edited) so the prison knows you're not smuggling anything in. Then be prepared to have a cold shower that times out after at a max 5 minutes where you need to strip down after the search, step in, lather up, wash off and then dry off. Yes all in 5 minutes.
Then you're off to, if you haven't been before the shower, the prison clothing area. Hopefully you'll get your shoe size if not a half to a full size bigger shoes will be issued. You'll get a designated amount of underwear i.e. plain white panties, and bras, jumpsuits, t-shirts, pants etc. and heaven help you if you have your period during the intake. Pads can be slow coming and if you are in a Fed facility that has White as a uniform, hope that your intake cell has a clean toilet so you can rinse the stains out.
After the initial intake, you will probably be kept on an incomer area which will probably be disgusting as the prison doesn't change bedding i.e. mattresses, if you have one, out for each prisoner. Don't count on a pillow.
Most likely, after 3 weeks, you will have been graded and then sent to your assigned level/tier/block/seg unit.
Not my words, just repeating what my pps experienced when they first went in.
PM me if you want specifics.
Sher, you wanted to know and Adam, you started this thread, happy you did, it's a reality not discussed to date on this site, not so sure that anyone else is or will be on board with this topic nor with honest answers.
Sher, take care of yourself, protect yourself, don't think that your cellie is your friend, don't think that any CO is your friend. Self contained, calm and determined to get out whole is your mission, do whatever you need to do before you go in to prepare for that and when you're in maintain.
Hope this helped you even if it is scary.
Keep your mouth shut don't write what happens in prison home you could be risking your own life. follow the rules stay away from the rough ones if you can but always be ready and alert to protect yourself.