I agree with everyone here for the most part. I am young like you(22) and am CONSIDERING(very skeptically) forming a relationship with one of PP's. I have learned on here that it is something that you don't go into lightly. Until you meet him in person and see what he is really like, you need to remind yourself that men in prison tend to have what I call 'Lonely Man Syndrome'. Many times they "fall" for the first woman to give them attention. I am not doubting your chemistry with him, but I am merely offering my opinion. Many people confuse infatuation with love, especially when they are young. So keep things somewhat on the back burner until you meet face to face. Just focus on taking care of your kids and advancing yourself Love is indeed an awesome thing, but relationships like this take a lot of work. It is not for everyone. Just ask the women and men engaged/married/ in a relationship with someone who is locked up. I am not saying to be doubtful or suspicious but stay realistic and grounded. You have your whole life ahead of you Take it slowwwwwwwwwwwww

If it was just Tori on her own I'd say 'Go for it. Could be fun. What an adventure.' I was 19 when I moved to a different country all by myself and it was the best experience of my life.

But when children are involved - especially children so young - it's a whole other ball game.

I agree. Be cautious. I told my pp that I had a crush on him and just that. There's no way I could know if I love him without mtg, but that's just me. We both agree we are ' dating' and just getting to know each other. I would say visit earlier if you could, visit a few times, visit after he is released a few times. Take a year or two after he is released to establish how your relationship dynamics have changed since his release, do you feel the same? Allow him to find his own footing and sense of self on the outside before throwing three more into the mix, his sole responsibility up until now has been himself and his schedule mandated by others. Then after all of that decide if you want to move over with him. He has to establish a new normal for himself before he can establish a normal for you in a new country and environment. Take your time it's a marathon not a sprint.

Slow down.

My man wants to marry me. BUT i have two kids 9 and 10 and there is no way i would move them from were i live and were they go to school. And My man knows this and will wait as long as i need to. If he is the one for you he will wait for you untill you are ready. I am going to meet A in a few weeks but i plan on going a few times a year untill he gets out. Its a big thing and i am 38 lol put your kids first. Talk to him about it.

yeah, think of your kiddies!
i am thinking about moving too - not for any pp but to get a better job (and i don't wanna move on the other side of this world...it's just 300km (about 186miles) from my hometown - and i am still wondering if it'll turn out well). i don't have any children but i am hesitating since i don't know how life's going without any friends?!
be sure that your man have to go to work and cannot entertain you the whole day. do you want to spend your days with your mother in law? well that's not the top of my dreams! so be sure you'll have to do anything on your own. you cannot give your children to your mother since she's at the other side of this world. you can't even call your mom all time just for talking since it's in the middle of the night.
and yes, his friends might be nice. but those are his friends. it's pretty hard to develope a friendship with them at the level your man's got. so think about that. what are you going to do all day long when your man is working?! any idea?

I want to say the obvious- but realistically you have to make choices based on what's best for your children. I won't introduce my son to my PP until I know that he is the person I have come to know through letters once he gets out. I love my son above everything else and his welfare is the utmost importance. it is second to any romantic feelings I have for a man, and always has been. Feelings are fleeting and love is like a drug many people can't put down. If you were a free single person who's chances only affected you -that's one thing, but it's a parents job to protect and make sure their children have all the chances at a good solid life. If it is real love he will understand and want to do the work to build a foundation . You can't have a home until you build a solid foundation.

No disrespect but at 19 thats a long way to go with two babies.. I remember way way back i was gonna take my kids, they would have been between 7 and 14 years old.. but we visited for a month first and boy did that make me change my mind FAST, its NOT a place you wanna bring up kids. no disrespect to all the usa peeps.

I think, if you can, read the book (or watch the film) Hideous Kinky.

I don't think having kids is a reason NOT to emigrate, but I do think that in this situation you would lack the support that you currently have. Plenty of people have up-rooted their children in search of a "better life" over the centuries - and America wouldn't be what it is today without them.

Uprooting kids is NOT good. I have uprooted myself and my children and moved to the other side of the world for my Husband that "was homesick". I am "stuck" now in the middle of the desert and the husband turned out to be a &(&$&^# *%$&^%# and is now days almost the Ex-husband! So my advice based on my own personal experience...do not move for ANY guy more than 20 miles radius from your original destination!