Re: Pen Pals and Rehabilitation
I have a good friend who does not feel ANY remorse for bashing the crap out of a CO, breaking ribs, his jaw etc and ending in the hole a few years back (still resides there). He explained in detail what happened and why, we have discussed it to the point of me accepting this. Does that make him a bad person? He is my friend and although i understand the choice he made, does not mean i have to accept it, but i will not reject him for those choices.
Not all people who end up in prison are "bad" people needing reform, some have just made bad decisions and so will continue to be true to who they are. Others due to circumstances change, harden and make choices they would not in the free world. It is not my place to judge another, i do not live a life behind bars, do not live the gang culture nor prison politics. I do not endure the ridicule of CO's, nor that of admin. I do not endure the punishment time and time again due to the actions of those around me.
I do not write people because i believe i can change them or influence them with rehabilitation, in other words reduce recidivism, that is not my motivation. I am under no illusion when it comes to prisoners, so many are happy with who they are and the moral compass they follow not seeing a need for change. While it is not the road i would choose to travel, i am happy to take along some food for thought and go with the flow.
You also have to remember what we see as a "bad" choice/decision is not to another, violence is the norm as is supporting there homies. If you go into writing thinking you can change/save someone, it is much like being with an alcoholic and thinking because he loves me he will change......it just doesn't work more times than it does.
Last edited by smiley; 06-19-2012 at 10:22 PM.
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