just because I am not so protective over murderers and drug dealers doesn't mean that I don't have a pen pal

No one thinks you should be protective. We (well, some of us at least) just think you're a troll.

Originally Posted by Cessna

just because I am not so protective over murderers and drug dealers doesn't mean that I don't have a pen pal

What has not being protective over murderers and drug dealers got to do with you wanting to know if your pal has been raped? Do you want him to have been raped? would get some sort of sick twisted kick out of it?

Umm hear goes,for what It's worth,I don't mean to offend you,do you know any men,I ask because from a man's point of view,we all.have egos some bigger than others but they are still there,to ask him as he been raped that's a big no plus a big dent in his pride,to think he's not man enough to stop it,( I know it could happen but just don't ask ok,trust me) on the violence front It's just a big a slap than the rape question,now you are asking a person you care about can they defend themselves,some people. Some people can't defend themselves,some can,some will take violence beyond what is needed,asking these questions will do more harm than good,think of where he is,think how you would feel if the roles were reversed,then ask your question,no offence,lots of love

that last comment of hers is defo words of a troll. so she can sit around doing this crap, but we cant sit and write.

If you do have a pen pal and you do ask him your very insensitive question I will guess you will soon be minus a pen pal pretty quick.

Originally Posted by Cessna

Is it okay to ask like "have you ever got beaten up or something like that"

These are awfully personal questions. Being beat up or fighting in prison is not a joke, for some fighting is a matter of survival, even life or death. As for rape, how can you even think of asking a person this? Are you really that insensitive? I dont know you from Adam but if you are asking these kinds of questions or considering asking them, i would suggest you do a bit of soul searching as to if you honestly think this is acceptable - or do you think it does not matter becasue they are 'just inmates' to you?

Why would you want to ask that? Are you serious?

God we dont have get some idiots here sometimes. FLM I think your so right.

Would these be normal questions you would ask of some one you'd just met out here in the free range world?

I know I sure as heck wouldn't, so why would I even consider asking an incarcerated penpal those things?

If a penpal wants to bring up such topics, it is up to them to do so IMO, and they would probably only do so after they had established some sort of trust relationship.

A person is a person, whether incarcerated or not, and not simply an item of curiousity to be questioned callously and carelessly.

In short, nope, I would never ask those questions.

This post is quite sad if you ask me.
I woul never ask anyone that if they want to tell me I will be there for them the best I can. But why would you want to hurt your pen pal like that? I could only imagine the horrific look on his face when he read it. I wouldn't reply to you if you aske me that. It's his business. Such a shame.