Originally Posted by bubblelishis25

C'mon guys I was going to stay out of it but...I know this a forum where we can be honest but whether she lied or not, it's getting a bit rude and unnecessary some of the comments you guys are saying towards her. I think we should stay focused on the topic.....I have been thinking about my man a lot lately, he was late on his letters because his friend showed up and they decided to have a workout marathon or whatever men do lol so I gave him a good piece of my mind! not really lol but I told him he was a bad bad boy.

I agree, Bubblelishis... Ok, I made choices that were not smart and said things that made the situation even worse... I've owned up to it and honestly the ONLY one I need to answer to is my LO.

kevinsprncss ~ it's not about your choices. You can sleep with whoever and however many you want and have 27 inmates in prison all waiting on your every word if you choose to, that's really not the issue here. It is the fact that you have changed your story so many times that other WAP members feel they have been lied to and you have lost any credibility that you may have previously had.

We all know that anyone can pretend when online to be anything or anyone else they want. I think most of us accept that what we are being told online may not be completely true (and if we don't then we should!) but when the story is so openly contradicted by the original poster, people will very quickly get pizzed off. People feel as if you wanted sympathy/understanding/attention and it was given (by some) but that was under false pretenses. Now you have been exposed, don't be surprised that people become hostile. They no longer trust what you say.

Sunrays got it in one. its the lies that got me, i really couldnt give two hoots how she lives her life.

Hi guys, I have read most of the opinions in this forum and have to say that my intake on a relationship is slightly different. Firstly, I don't know what LWOP means, so I can't comment on that. So let me explain further. Sex, does not need to be a case of infidelity these days, we can all find ways of satisfying ourselves. But, love is something different altogether. It is more than just a physical satisfaction, it is comfort, nurturing, feeling safe, wanting to share every word and every minuet with someone and knowing that they feel the same. All relationships, no matter what, are based on trust and respect first and foremost. If you don't feel the first two, forget it and move on. Don't want to offend, only my way of thinking. Nette

Originally Posted by the blue star

Firstly, I don't know what LWOP means, so I can't comment on that.

LWOP = Life WithOut Parole

LWOP is life with out parole,I think you can fall in love with someone without you knowing it,it just creeps up and bang your hooked,trust and respect will not play a part at first because your so smitten you won't think straight,you will do/try anything to please your new man/woman the trust and respect you seek will only appear in time,you can't honestly say on a second date " I respect him and trust totally " relationships are a fickle thing my friend,half the people I know are divorced,9 out 10 relationships don't work because they weren't meant for each other,no I am not a cynic I believe in love,we all go through the same crap in a relationship,but the ones that make it, don't let that crap drag them down,one of them will stand up and say something,just my two pence

Thank you hunnie. Can you explain why some people get LWOP and other get Death Row. The American justice system has got me so confused. In England we don't have Death Row, and LWOP is only usually given to the most heinous of crimes. Nette

Originally Posted by the blue star

Thank you hunnie. Can you explain why some people get LWOP and other get Death Row. The American justice system has got me so confused. In England we don't have Death Row, and LWOP is only usually given to the most heinous of crimes. Nette

First you have to remember that every state has different sentencing. They may not differ that much in DP and LWOP crimes but enough to be confusing. There is no federal (country wide) standard for sentencing.

Sometimes a person will get LWOP instead of the DP- depends on the lawyer, the jury, the judge, how things roll sometimes, also, how the laws for that state are set. Not every state has the DP in this country.

To be really confusing, here is an example of how Oregon alone does it and why, and each state will have laws like this, all different:

Capital punishment in Oregon - Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia

Originally Posted by the blue star

Thank you hunnie. Can you explain why some people get LWOP and other get Death Row. The American justice system has got me so confused. In England we don't have Death Row, and LWOP is only usually given to the most heinous of crimes. Nette

LWOP doesn't exist in English law. Those convicted of murder, and I think one or two other specific crimes, all receive an automatic life sentence and it is up to the Home Secretary to set a tariff (number of years to be served on pirson before parole is considered). For a very very small number of inmates (Charlie Bronson springs to mind, Myra Hindley, Ian Brady etc) their behaviour means that they are never considered to be ready for parole, and so their sentence eventually becomes life behind bars but usually this happens for psychiatric reasons and not just bad behaviour. But they still have periodic reviews to establish whether they could be paroled or not. Those with LWOP in America don't get reviewed because that's what that particular sentence means.

Is anyone else getting deje vu ?

It doesn't matter anymore... I've screwed up and it sucks but it's something I have to live with. It just seems like every day I find more and more reasons to stay in my bed and not come out anymore...