I just responded in another thread about a pp of mine who had mixed up letters and sent me a letter she had written for someone else. I wanted to say more on that but I didn't want to de-rail the thread and take it in another direction.
I will be returning that letter and ending correspondence with her. However, there is an interesting set of dynamics here...
First of all, I could care less if she is writing a dozen people or more and what her relationships with those people are. Her relationships with others is none of my business. However, in her relationship with me she has told me that she is not writing anyone else. She has further said that as a matter of self-respect, she would never write what she refers to as 'sex letters'. She has lied to me twice. That is my business. Trust is the basis for my any of my relationships, when you violate that - game over.
The really sad part about this is, I truly think that her relationship with this other person is a diversion and means nothing. I also believe that her relationship with me is very meaningful to her. And yet she has lost it. I really think she will be crushed.
Anyway, I could be completely wrong... doesn't matter, just interesting thought matter...