Okay.. my PP wrote:

And if it turns out you are nuts. Quit writing me.

Isn't this implying that he thinks I'm nuts? I mean why would someone even mention insanity if they weren't trying to imply it?

I am really confused?

Okay, maybe you should ask yourself if this penpal thing is really something that you should do, because you've been basically posting excerpts (sp) of letters on the forum, wondering what your pp means, what is he saying... Who knows??? I don't have a clue how long you've been writing him, I don't know what else he was writing when he wrote those words...the only person who really knows is your penpal?

You can't just analyze every word he's writing you and wondering if it was ill-intended. Either you feel comfortable writing him or you don't. If you have to come on this forum every time to ask what he meant when he wrote down a certain sentence, then in my opinion there's no click between you and your penpal. Don't sweat the small stuff and enjoy the correspondence, it's probably him making conversation or trying to be funny. If you really want to know, just ask him? Because obviously there is a communication problem between the both of you, if you don't understand a word he's saying...

Well, there really isn't any sentence of importance, before or after the initated comments.

It was pretty blunt. I would ask him but he might mark me off as paranoid.

No problem comunicating. But his comments make me stop and re-assess what it might mean.

This guy claims he's smart and tells it like it is.

Humm..

It is really difficult to add emotions to writing. Only time with writing and getting to know each other you will pick up on the moods of each other.
But to anylise every comment he is making isn't very healthy.
I hope you can relax into your future friendship or maybe re-consider if you should continue writing.
TC
Carol
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Well Im looking at it at a different angle, i think he was meaning that If you are Nuts, dont bother. Inmates get alot of crazy mail, well some do anyway. And alot of it is real head drama, that personally in their situation they can do without. So he just wanted to set boundaries. Im assuming this was his first letter? So he is telling you straight up what he wont deal with is head games.

Totally agreed with Zosja, if I am interpreting her tone as impatience with your immaturity correctly. You seem to just want something puzzling and exciting in your life. Try getting one of those "Find a Word" books. This is not a book you're reading where you can just skip to the end because the middle bores you. (Bet you do that, too, don't you?) You have to LIVE the correspondence, not ascribe some nefarious motive to each syllable.

I cannot say anymore. For you to dissect this guy's letter distresses me no end, and I'm about to lose patience. You sound like a third-grade girl, whispering things about the little boy on the third row. Are you sure you're 18?
Wil

Like i said before in another post, I think you might be over analysing the letters you have been receiving.

Trying to read things that aren't there, trying to make more out of what it really is.

Either this friendship is going to come naturally and is going to be worth having, or you are going to analyse every word he writes to you and never get to know the real him, you are only going to get to know the person you are creating, the person who appears to be making you paranoid.

I think you need to seriously consider whether or not you are going to be able to continue writing to this person.

Damn it ... i hadnt finished writing when it posted....

If you decide to continue writing to him, then you need to give him a chance, get to know him and his style of writing instead of starting to analyse the words.

It is very difficult to express in written words what the mind is trying to say, and as such, some people can get the wrong opinion when reading something that the authour understands compleltly - of course the authour knows what it means - they wrote it.
The more you get to know him, the further your friendship progresses, the more you will be able to understand what he is trying to say to you.

I hope what we have posted between us is of some use to you

xx Kitty xx

Damn it ... i hadnt finished writing when it posted....

If you decide to continue writing to him, then you need to give him a chance, get to know him and his style of writing instead of starting to analyse the words.

It is very difficult to express in written words what the mind is trying to say, and as such, some people can get the wrong opinion when reading something that the authour understands compleltly - of course the authour knows what it means - they wrote it.
The more you get to know him, the further your friendship progresses, the more you will be able to understand what he is trying to say to you.

I hope what we have posted between us is of some use to you

xx Kitty xx

Originally Posted by 123456abc

Okay.. my PP wrote:

And if it turns out you are nuts. Quit writing me.

Isn't this implying that he thinks I'm nuts? I mean why would someone even mention insanity if they weren't trying to imply it?

I am really confused?

Sounds like he's had a bad experience in the past hun
oh ! and NOOOOOOOOO i do NOT think he's implying that YOU are nuts - just that someone else in his past was and it's made him wary