ok..i have come up with a theory about finding love from a convivted criminal. here it is,.. in our fast paced lives on the outside, if one goes on a date and "he" spends quite a bit on you there is, it seems an underlying current of hopefully he'll get some sex at the end of this date. (of course there is always exceptions) but it seems to be prevalent in the U..S. covert prostitution really , and if one is out to just have sex this is not what im talkin about, but that is just the precedence to my theory, when one has to wait for that first kiss, for that first touch, and it is required by law "no more" it makes the experience have such a huge impact, hardly anyone uses snail mail anymore, and with each letter we get to know them better, and hopefully, we are not being played and they are "feelin & thinkin about their crimes" so it seems this emotion comes out in my pp letters, it's like jumpin back to the "old days" where a kiss was always as far as it went and i think both genders and people from other affectional preferances kind of crave this,, getting to know someone thouroly before the opportunity to go further sexually, Am i making sense? so many times people jump into sex quickly and ask about other things later, and then they find out that they have nothing in common but with wap it gives us an opportunity to get to know each other so i think the divorce rate would be lower because of such , what do you think< i am not currently in love with any of my pp and i always say i am looking for correspondence only but i have to be real and say one pp has kind of taken me off gaurd and im not quite sure how to deal with it i have been out of marriage for 23 years but "he" makes me feel like an awkward teenager,

And sometimes ,people correspond my snail mail to eventually find that when they go beyond actual meeting,but actually get to be with their PP,having lots of real time togtherthey have nothing in common,too.People can be quite diferent in their letters to in person.I am!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Reality is often much darker.Sometimes better...who knows!

It,s been seen here in the past,knowing someone a long time "in Person' is quite diffeeent from knowing someone thropugh heartfelt mail and occasional visits.

And if you think alot (most?) of these PP,s would not refer post and a visitor,s kiss to sex,given the chance............................................ ...

Not saying either is right or wrong,but there is ideal and not so ideal situations in both situations.

And I don,t think most free society romances start with sex,in fact,some that delay in doing so often don,t do as well either ,as the anticipation was better than finding a huge missmatch later on! Except in Romance Novels!How dreadful to discover later on you are sexually incompatible,and things dont live up to your romantic notions..and then you,re stuck with some one for the next 50 years that.........

I am so glad you posted this topic, for I was thinking the same thing. I think that it is a great way to form a relationship with someone, because the prison creates and enforces such great boundries. I feel like this is to our advantage because it makes both parties really value each other as individuals and not think of the other as just another simple sexual experience. I find this method to be a blessing in that it gives both parties the opportunity to really look at the other person and form FRIENDSHIPS first, instead of just another ride in the sack where both people feel akward. It makes the man really appreciate the woman he is getting involved with because physical encounters are not so easy to come by. It makes them look foward to being you and value you as a person.

I don't necessarily agree with you, erehwon because building a good relationship with anyone needs a solid foundation. A foundation built on trust, communication and actually caring for the other person despite their flaws, bad personality traits, bad habits, etc....

When two people meet on the outside and feel an attraction for one another - I'm sorry - a lot of them will jump in bed and ask questions later. It's how it is in today's modern society where sex before marriage isn't considered taboo or a moral sin anymore (well, in most societies, anyway).

When you get to know someone first, whether it's by choice or by circumstance as it is here on WAP, the foundation begins to build there. Once two people have that foundation, I believe they are more likely to be willing to tolerate, compromise and love the other person unconditionally despite the "difference" once they get to know eachother in person.

Of course this is just my opinion and I'm sure there are people who won't agree, as well as people who do jump in the sack, then spend their lives together blissfully. Or people who get to know one another first, then find they are no match at all later on.

I think about if I met my pp on the street instead of here, I don't think much would be different except he and I would probably have a lot more walls build up at the beginning and wouldn't be as appreciative as to the time we spend hearing from or seeing one another as we are now. I like the fact that he was my friend and a confidant first before he was anything else to me.

Anyone else agree?

To be honest, I think that it's best not to analyse these relationships too much. It's not like there is a blueprint that aplies to everyone. Every relationship is different and what will work for one person will not necessarily work for someone else - whether you meet that person through WAP or whilst walking the dog. Whether it starts with sex or with letters written to each other over years - everyone is different as that is the beauty and nature of life.

rose yes i see what you mean i have a tendency to analize to much, especially about love. many are very curious about wap so its what got me trying to analize it, think ill go for a walk and see if i fall in love (smile)

Hi Gold,

I hope you enjoy that walk, love will come and find you if it's meant to be.

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