oK..here's my story..lol.
recently i started writing to a new pp, who is due to be released in 2007 after serving his entire 15 yr sentence for robbery, assault, and drug offences. Ok. Nice guy, wer'e the same age; got my first phone call Tuesday night. I of course was very excited...until...lol..this is so weird. We're talking away, and he says "can I come to Canada?" I was like yeah, sure... that'd be cool (he's from Seattle) and THEN he says, "can I live with you?" WTF>??!! Ok folks, nice guy and all but, can I live with you??!! What just happened, and what in the world do I say?!?!

Be Honest!

Wow..I guess I would be very shocked if it was something that had never been discussed between the two of you! Just tell him how you feel and be honest about it..

Wow..I guess I would be very shocked if it was something that had never been discussed between the two of you! Just tell him how you feel and be honest about it..

I don't know how nice this guy is, Tess, but I think that my response would be, "Not until I know you a LOT better!" And, I think that I might even give him hell for even asking such a question.
BUT THEN! Maybe he really needs help. Could you do that for him, without taking him into your home? It's a tough call and it all depends on how well you know him and trust him.
Good luck.

Yes if you want him to,and No if you don,t.

We all usually agree here that the basis of any friendship is honestly,right?!

Always be honest as this can be pivotal
for them.. but add that he can not cross the border without special permission.. so technically he can not come to canada.. he must go through special visa conditions tho canada believes in rehabiltation so he can come 5 yrs after his out date to visit and ten years after without any conditions

I agree with the others - be honest, it really is the best way.

Good luck.

Having now experienced a few things with PP's i would be carefull how you word it, make sure you are very clear about what you want, if you were to avoid saying NO or not say NO very firmly yet politely, then tell him there are visa restrictions and he cant anyway, what he may hear is...oh she really wants to say yes, i will just cross the border illegally, theres no big deal. I know its a big generalisation but obviously in the majority of cases these guys didnt respect laws to begin with there envirnoment they live in now does little to change that way of thinking. Lets hope he doesnt have buddies that are all fueled up and wanting a road trip!

wow...all these replies have given me a lot to think about!!! lol...i have to admit, i guess i kinda already knew that the honesty portion would need to come into play REAL quick, lol..i guess i was just so SHOCKED to hear him just BLURT that out, you know?! i'm still sitting here kind of in a daze!! plus it makes me wonder more about his overall intentions-does that make any sense? he says he wants to have "that special someone" to share future plans with and all, and i know he has two different trades and wants to get working as soon as he can once he's out...but it just makes you wonder, considering we just started writing (i just got his third letter!!!), and have only spoken to him once on the phone. Thanks to all for your input, it is much appreciated, as always!!!