Do you ever fear that they are one person in prison and then they may not be that same person once they get out? Some of these people have been locked up for a very long time and I would think that once they are out in the real world they would change somewhat! Or maybe they only have those feelings because they are so lonely and isolated and once they get out all that changes?

Montana Gal,
In my experience, he did change when he got out. We had a great friendship (so I thought). He would call me,write great letters,we even planned on meeting when he came off parole!! He got out and after one call, I never heard from him again.
I don't believe they all do this but from what I have been told, I am not the only one this has happened too! After this I am now of the opinion that we have to accept that maybe we are just temporary to our pen pals. From my own experience and of others I think we may have filled that void while they were lonely. Who knows really?
I can't say this is the way it is for all of them, I'm sure there are more success stories out there...I just haven't heard many. When people on this forum said all this to me when I asked this same question before his release, I thought well we will be different but...??
I hope to hear more stories of prisoners and their pen pals maintaining friendships after release.

I feel like that all the time =(

MontanaGal, while that is true and highly likely, I had that same experience with a loved one in the Navy...many, many, many years ago. He wrote me 2-3 letters every day full of "I love you's." When he got home, those words had trouble coming from his lips! And this is someone I had known for years.

i think that everynow and then, but i know how much we are in love and i dont think he would jeopardize our relationship for something crazy..he tells me when he gets out that everything will be the same except better and i know he loves me and i love him and when he does get out i can believe everything he tells me.He has cheated on many girls in the past and hes told me about all of it, but he says i changed him and where would we be without trust?
To make a long story short *sorry* i think everything would be better...
xoxo
Erica

I have asked my pp this very same question. He has been in jail for 15 years and has another 45 to serve,he has grown so much over the years he is not the same person. But in saying that he has said being in prison doesn't afford him to be the true person he is and wants to be.

Yes, I worry about the same thing with my guy I am writing to. He tells me that he wants to be with me when he gets out(he gets out in 6 months) I wasn't looking for anything like that when i began writing but you can't help but get attached. I was writing to another guy awhile back and when he got out he stopped talking to me so of course I would worry the same thing will happen but I guess I will just have to wait and see. He seems sincere in the things he says, I just hope he really is!

i am in the same boat as jenn....it seems real with my pp but you just never know...i look at this way i am going to keep going forward and hope for the best and if it doesn't work out at least my heart was in the right place right? : )

Happiness, yeah you never know for sure what will happen but that is true with any relationship and if you don't try then you will never know! Good luck with your PP