Some things happened for me so that I didn't have the time I usually do to write my pp. I wrote maybe 4 letters in a month and he became very upset even though I reassured him everything between us was fine. He had told me he hadn't written love letters to any other pp, that I am the first. When he became upset he wrote to another woman he had been writing to when I first wrote to him. He tells me now that they have said the i love you's back and forth. He says he only wrote to her because he thought I had left him. I see that he has not been completely honest with me. I don't know what to think.

I wonder ,from what you wrote ,that your Pp is putting some sort of emotional pressure/games with you?

Sure,receiving letters is a very big deal for them there,very,but you still sound like a great correspondent to me.

Many pp,s would I,m very sure be thrilled to receive as many letters as you wrote.But romance does complicate things,I suppose.True love takes time and knowledge as well as emotion.....your PP does seem to have found new "love" rather quickly,I wonder?

I tend to think that your instincts are coming through in your message to us.
Please listen to them.

He doesn`t receive his usual/expected quota of letters from you, and so he`s written to the other lady, and done the love thing with her?
Maybe he has a huge insecurity problem, but he sure hasn`t exhibited a lot of trust and confidence in his relationship with you.
What would happen if you were for instance,ill, and unable to write for a few weeks. He`d be off looking for greener pastures?
Sorry if I sound a little sceptical about this guy, but I know what I`d be thinking in your situation wolfdoll.

Oh Feline, Those are my exact thoughts. One should never feel pressured for fear of losing someone. Like Feline states, what happens when/if emergency may happen. I'm sorry someone has done this to you. He needs to learn some respect and patience with you

If someone is pressuring you to *love* them, it isn't the real thing.

It sounds cheesy as cheese-nips, but love is patient. If it's real, it will wait.

Thank you so much everyone. He thinks I am over reacting to what he did and now I don't think I'm nuts. Do you think I should end correspondence with him or just tell him I want to be friends?

Do what your heart tells you. He should be a part of the decision making I would think.

Wolfdoll, that's passive aggressive behavior on his part. He's the one who did something wrong and now he's trying to make you feel like you did something wrong by getting upset over it.

I was in a relationship like that for two years. It's enough to drive you crazy. It's totally up to you how you handle this, but that kind of behavior is a deal breaker for me. I don't care if it's a friend or a love interest, a prisoner or someone on the outside.

Perhaps I’m over sensitive to it, my experience tells me that if they act this once, they will continue to do so. Is that really something you want in your life?