Hi,everyone: ( hopefully new friends now and in the future ) I am writing because everyone in this forum really cares about each other. My fourteen year old daughter was molested and raped by a 42 year old man who was suppose to be someone who was close to me. I am all alone trying to rebuild our lives. I cannot talk to anyone about everything that is going on inside of me because it is too hard. I was thinking about writing to a pp because I feel I need a friend as much as they do and I feel that we could really help each other. Do you think it would be a good idea for me to write a pp under my circumstances? I go to counseling every week, but this is an extremely difficult time for me and it is very hard to put my life back together. Thank-you for any help and advice you can give me.

Hello and welcome, firstly may i say how terribly sad i am to hear your terribly distressing tale. I cannot imagine what both you and your daughter are going through. I appreciate that you are looking for someone to correspond and yes writing to an inmate can be very rewarding for both parties involved. However i feel i must say that you seem to be going through an awful lot of inner turmoil and when you consider that we all take a chance here, you will need to select who you write to very carefully. There are many people incarcerated who would love your letters and the support that you offer but you must be aware that some are unscrupulous and not who they protray themselves as. How about writing to a female pen pal, that would kind of remove any predotary threat and may be easier for you to deal with given your current circumstances. I would advise you that if you do decide to write to somebody then take the precaution of getting a PO box just to make yourself feel safer as i believe that a secure situation is best for you right now. Keep it simple keep it safe and should you decide to correspond open up slowly and take your time you will both benefit and hopefully form a friendship that will see you both through very difficult times, Good luck and Take care of your selves. Regards Andrew

First, I cannot find the words to express my sorrow for that terrible ordeal. I hope that you can be strong to help your daughter move ahead and recover. Pain seems to hurt so much more when it's inflicted by someone close to you.

I have to agree that there are many folks in prison who are definitely compassionate and who would enjoy sharing with you so I deinitely encourage you to seek out and find one. When I first wrote to someone, I did so with the idea that I could offer something to them. But I can say that it has be helpful to me as well.

Will

Bless your heart! I have been through a very similar incident and knowone should be alone during this.Please Email me Patzwife@aol.com Maybe I can be of some help-support???

Welcome to your new family. Please consider yourself a friend of ours and we will help in any way we can.
What has happened to your daughter and yourself is beyond words.
I think it could be a good release for you to write to an inmate and as was said, please choose carefully. I also agree that a female inmate would be the best choice right now.
You are welcome at anytime to chat with us about anything that comes to mind. We are a support group and I think we are pretty good at it. )

i'm sorry u and ur daughter have had 2 go thru this, if ever u need a friend, a shoulder, or just 2 vent ur anger, e mail me, chilligirl711@hotmail.com.
everybody here will be there 4 u honey, u dont have 2 feel that ur alone, sending u my love n hugs xxxxxjoannexxxxx

Hi openheart and welcome to WAP.
I am also sorry to hear about the grief and turmoil in your life.
I don't think that you can expect to find wise counceling from a prisoner, but I do think that there is something therapeutic about doing something nice for someone else. It will help to take your mind off your own woes.
Best wishes and happy writing.

Welcome from me,too.

I also am also so sorry to read of your ordeal.

A prisoner friend ship could be an excellent way of helping two parties,but please do chose carefully.There are many excellent pps, on this site who would make terrific friends,and bring you much happiness and support too. You must also be aware that a bad experience would not be what you need to risk now.

Maybe someone here could give a good recommendation on someone?

Wishing you all the best,kind wishes and positive thoughts to you from across the ocean.And a welcoming hug.

I am so sorry to hear this happened.

I had a situation somewhat on these lines, which also made me think of writing an inmate along with reading about this site.
I felt in away deep inside without bringing up what happened,and never will, I could help them and in some odd way could put my mind at peace too.

It was the best thing I ever did (smile)

no matter where we are, no matter how far.
a friendship keeps us close, words of encouragment we post.
in happy times and in bad, we try to lift your spirits.
we don't want to see you sad.
so let's join hands in friendship, join hands across the sea.
and hope that you'll feel all the love.
thats meant for you from me.


if ever you need a friend xxxxx