My son is 21 years old and he was convicted and sentenced in 07' to 25 years I just can't believe it I am so angry with him for wasting his life and being so cavalier. I am also very sad that he's there.I don't know what to say to him.He's so angry.I just want to scream.I feel like it was my fault he is there and how could he be so selfish!If this sounds like it makes no sense that is how I feel!!

anger is part of " self coping skills" he too i having a hard time coping with prison life. ( at least that is what I feel is going on here) more then likly at this point he is angry with everybody. ( this too is normal for those that are guilty of their crimes. instead of taking responsibilities for themselves, they at this point rather blame all but themselves. most times, until they can get pass this point of being angry, it will continue till other wise.

you have every right too feel all that you do. and trust me hun, you are not alone in this. many of us here also feel the same. this too is normal.

if there is anything i can do, to help you and your son through this process. please feel free too PM me.

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mar7297
I am so sorry to hear about your son. It is a difficult pill to swallow. It breaks your heart and and, I would guess, if he is guilty, it would anger you at the same time. Nonetheless, as his mother, you must be going through great many turmoils, but believe me, guilt should not be one of those feelings.

We do all we can for our children and then we have to let them decide their own life. It hurts to watch them do things that we know is not the best decision for them. They have to learn their way and their own lessons just as we did.

My son is in prison also and he is now 22 years of age. it breaks my heart as well.

25 years is a very long time. I hope you are able to visit and to write and have phone conversations with your son. It will benefit both you and him.

Please email or PM me when you are able and if you like. I would be happy to talk with you further if you are comfortable with that.

God be with you and your son!
Have faith, love, and hope!

Be Blessed!

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my advice to you is to stay strong, my son Ricky was 21 when he hung himself while in prison. Your son NEEDS you now more than ever, and being mad will only hurt you both. My other son Charlie died at age 21 too on his motorcycle. Time and life gets wasted all the time....YOUR SON NEEDS YOU AND YOU NEED HIM!!! Being mad at him only hurts you more!!!! Go see him, pray for him, wriote him, stay in his life all that you can...take it from a Mom that knows what shes talking about...email me if you want to talk at VSimpson324@aol.com...I will oray for you and your son..MIRACLES DO HAPPEN EVERYDAY!!!!

God Bless You My Dear Mother,
Venessa

When i got into trouble in 1993 my mom ran the whole range of throwing my life away. I took responsibility and kept in touch. at 76 she reminds me of how I messed up for life yet we are close as a continent away can be. Part of my recovery was writing her to thank her for teaching me manners well though I made some poor choices. I find it awesome that you can share on a forum and that you love him no matter what! Keep in touch, write about those things moms always say even if no one listens, some day he topo will need that family connection. I wish you serenity & peace.