I have been writing my pp for about 5 months now.I did not write with any intentions of finding a relationship.I am actually married.I moved and had some problems with my mail.He wrote me a second letter that I finally got about a month later.He was letting me know that he had wrote me a letter and did not know if I had recieved it or not.We began talking and the conversation got deeper and deeper.I sent him a money order for $30.I figured he could use some money for stamps,envelopes, or anything he needed.He sent it back and told me that he did not want my money.That he only wanted my friendship.That really says something in my eyes.I am going to drive up and see him after the fall semester of school is over.Am I wrong to feel like I love him?I have more emotions and feelings for a man I have never met than I do for my own husband.Please don't be mean in your responses.I am just trying to understand if this is wrong...

No its not wrong at all to fall in love if thats what it is. I believe you need to sort your marriage out first make or break, before you start visiting and getting even more confused about your situation tho, you must of loved your hubby at one point, work out why this other guy has managed to get in your heart whats lacking in your marriage? can it be fixed?, was it stable before the other guy came along? if its just lacking in a little love and attention tell your hubby he cant fix what he dont know he is doing wrong, Good luck and well done on being clean so long.

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I'm probably not the best person to give advice here....because I'm in the EXACT same boat.

I will say that I agree with UKGAL....that you really need to see what's going on with your marriage first. Because if your PP is just replacing what you are missing in your marriage then it's probably not a love that is going to last. So you will just end up getting hurt in the end. You will eventually lose your husband and your PP. Is it worth all that? You need to be true to yourself first. You have to be happy and that's the most important thing. Can't look towards a man whether he's incarcerated or not to bring happiness to your life. I've learned that the hard way.

Good Luck!

If your marriage is bad get a divorce then start again i did it the wrong way and i suffered emotionally and financially because of it please be smart

This sounds like the 80/20 rule.

In a marriage you may only get 80% of what you really want and need. So when you find something with the missing 20% you long for it even more.

I would close one door before opening the other. People can get hurt really bad otherwise.

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I was married and having a real BAD marriage at the time I hooked up with Boo. I did not think I was going to go any further either-I just needed someone to listen to me. Dint know a shoulder and an ear could turn into sooo much more.
I did finally divorce my husband but Boo was NOT the reason,,,funny thing is once it was over I got to see just how many women my x-husband had on his team waiting in the wings for him,,,one even showed up at court for one of the court proceedings-lovely!
If you are really set on getting divorced because of your marriage and your husband then I see nothing wrong with having a good friend to get you thru it-it HELPS,, but do not do it for the new dude-Do it for you and your place in life.

wobabi
excellent advice

Thank you all for being so nice and up front.It really is what I needed to hear.My marriage is bad.It has always been bad since day one it seems.I think I just really needed and still do need someone that will listen to me and care what I have to say.I write a few different guys in different prisons.The one I am talking about above,there is just something about him.I litterally scratching my head.I am just confused I guess.Anywho,thank you for the advice everyone I am taking it to heart.

If your marriage has been bad since day one and you guys are unhappy. I would take the next step and part ways and move toward a divorce. It is the only way you will be able to really move on.

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I am not trying 2-b mean but how could u fall in love so quickly w/a person u have known so shortly & still while being married? gullible maybe? please don't b so quick 2 fall for any-1 w/o getting to know the person! in some cases the inmate is so very smart & could've read b-teen the lines 2 have known what or how he could've lured u ! it is a simple fact that he could've done this 2 another person too! & may-b jus may-b she wised up & moved on! as I said b-4 their so few that are truly good & mean well (inmates) but their a needle in the hay stack to find plez take time 2 get 2 know him well b-4 havin such strong feeling's 4 some 1 - u barely know! & on the other level have u not considered 2 see if ur marriage is worth saving? I do feel there is a lack of missin love in ur marriage? may-b that is what is needed 2 respark it & by all means save it w/ the man u have known & married?