Wow, Skye, I really like that! I never thought of it that way! This thread doesn't really pertain to me, but I am glad I checked it out. I have a friend who's husband has been cheating on her and I think this may be exactly the reason.

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"Power tends to corrupt, and absolute power corrupts absolutely."
~Lord John Emerich Edward Dalberg Acton

This is actually true in most cases where cheating occurs. There could be sexual acts one partner is into and the other isn't so they go and find someone to fill that void. It doesn't justify cheating, it just helps one understand it.

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William Jennings Bryan

Maybe I shouldn't say this but the other one is your pp,so what do you know about him?The things he has told you in his letters,guess you never have seen him,met him.Just writing letters...so you have fallen for the words in his letters and not for that guy in person.
Talk to your husband...

maybe the communication is what your falling in love with all the wonderful words the understanding etc that you may not be getting from your husband now if we could all bottle that first feeling when you first develope feelings wow we'd be happy for even and never have to deal with (not being mean ) reality .honey i'm not saying it's impossible to fall in love in 5 months but what i'm saying is is it the kind that would last ? or is it an excape from maybe a marriage your bored with ? something to think about

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A single rose can be my garden... a single friend, my world.
~ Leo Buscaglia

i like the above advice i would say something similair.
i'm married too and have a few pp myself to be honnest i have thought i was fallen in love too with one of the guys but i confused some things.
love at paper is so much diffrent as for real(it can be possible of course).
i ignored my then boyfriend because i was compelty confused,but after a good thinking i was sure i never could/would give up my life for maybe a dream.
you know .....i guess it's what the most of all do is day dreaming about our pp but keep in mind reality!!
don't give up a marriage for a dream only when you are sure about it 100%.

good luck with whatever you will decide ,hugs,whiterose.

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be nice to the people on your way up,because you will meet them again on your way down

I agree with SKYE 100%. I was married 15 years and my divorce was final this past July. I have known my pp for 1.5 years and have fallen in love with him. I actually stopped writing to him as I was going through the divorce process. I did that to collect my thoughts and ensure I was divorcing for the right reasons. I DID NOT divorce because I fell in love with my pp. I divorced because we tried conseling and so many other things and were just not compatible anymore. Please take your time to sort out your feelings. We cannot control our hearts, we can only control our actions. Best wishes to you. I know it is difficult. We are here for you!

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