I got a call yesterday from my hubby's celly. Seems that him and a jail guard had words over an i.d. bracelet or something and now he's locked down for ten days. This means no visits, not even a phone call. My birthday is Thursday, the 27th of this month so this means I will not even get to talk to my husband on my birthday.

He was already so very depressed, so depressed that it was overwhelming me badly as to know what to do for him and now this. I just don't know how things can get any worse at this point. I am really struggling and feel very, very hopeless and I'm sure he does too but I really don't know what is going on with him as I can't talk to him. But I'm sure its not good.

Why in the world do the jails and prisons do this? Don't they realize that I am now being punished too? I didn't do anything at all! I feel like screaming but all I end up doing is crying!

Aw, Gypsy i know this is hard, very hard! Yes, i know what you mean when you say: dont they realize that i am now being punished too? My guy was punished for a month last month we couldn't call.
Some guards are a*ssholes, who just like to give a punishment. But most of them are cool and do sometimes what they need to do to keep everything in order.

I understand it sucks he can't call on your birthday. But try to get not to be depressed. Try to accept the situation now. And think about the fact you both can call in ten days again. And im sure, even he can't call on your birthday his heart and mind are with you.

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"Time is too slow for those who wait, too swift for those who fear, too long for those who grieve, too short for those who rejoice, but for those who love, time is eternity."
i wish you all the best for now and if you like to you can email me personal if you'r feeling that bad,maybe i can help you .

hugs.......

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Awww. I am so sorry they did that to you both. It is a power trip.

Happy birthday.

It will get better. egotistical jerks can not break the power of love. Hold in there.

LADY ROSE,

I AM SO SORRY TO HEAR OF THIS. FIRST OFF, LET ME SAY HAPPY EARLY BIRTHDAY. THIS IS JUST ANOTHER TEST. I KNOW YOU ARE HURT BUT AT LEAST IT IS ONLY 10 DAYS AND NOT 10 MONTHS. UNDERSTAND SOMETHING THOUGH. WE ARE THE WIVES, GIRLFRIENDS, MOTHERS AND SISTERS OF CONVICTED FELONS. AT THE END OF THE DAY THE CO'S COULD CARE LESS ABOUT HOW WE OR THEY FEEL. THEY DO DUMB THINGS TO PROVOKE OUR MEN TO GET IN TROUBLE. BUT OUR MEN NEED TO BE MORE MINDFUL AND TRY TO BE BETTER THAN WHAT THE PRISON SYSTEM THINKS THEY ARE.


KEEP YOUR HEAD UP! IT GETS GREATER LATER!!

Sorry about that situation...it happens alot...to many. I have a motto with my pp.....ever onward, looking upward. It has good meaning...it's like swimming under the bouy line together, from the shallow end, and going out into the deep. The horizon looks far, but it is out there...depend on each other, keep looking ahead....remember that there are many couples that stay in the shallow end...with their feet on the ground...and really they have nothing. Even though our pp's and sig others are confined, they are still joined to us emotionally....don't lose that. When you do that, then yes, you do suffer "punishment" also. Look ahead, onward and upward. (perhaps that is why the window on Noahs ark was located within a few meters of the top of the ship....to look upward and not at the destruction below....). Encourage him/her to join you in that swim...you probably don't realize it but you are his/her rock. Happy Birthday...you'll have us here to celebrate with...we'll keep you in prayer on your special day.

we surly understand your frustrations. There are not many of us here that does not understand how you feel. Please know that you are not alone

many hugggs to you

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Hi Gypsy, I am so sorry. My brother was just moved to a temporary prison that's on lock down 23 hours a day. During this time we cannot call or visit him and nobody will tell us when they're moving him. It's been a hard time here, lots of bad things happening all in a row. So on some level I understand how you feel. I am praying for you my friend.

Gypsy-awww hun, its rough I know! part of the life of a prisoners wifey is never knowing what could happen with him from one day to the next.. he could be moved,ticketed, thrown in the box,sent to a medical you just never know. try to focus on the + because if u dont thats how many times relationships of this type begin to fail. when the goin gets tough -get tougher..!!! you will have many more birthdays to celebrate hun and at least he is Ok...take it a day at a time and try to keep busy. write him how you feel, it makes you feel closer to him at times like this when u cant be together physically.

Thank you all for your support. I am really confused as to what is going on about all this. I posted another post about what happened today under General Prison Talk and I labeled the thread something about mail rules. Anyway, now they've restricted his mail. I really thought this was illegal. I thought that they had a RIGHT to receive regular letters from family and friends. I am really trying to find out about this.