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Angel Without Wings · #11 (**permalink**) 03-08-2009, 03:42 AM

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Originally Posted by lulu

Many people or The word I rather use, is society doesn’t understand, is that when we have a loved one in prison, it DOES effect the whole.

I wondered for many years myself why it was that so many that was lock up lost contact with their families. The sad thing is, they do. BUT, not for the reason that so many think.

It wasn’t tell I spoke with the family of my pals, and even my own family, ( we have a loved one lock up) that I found out why they stop writing.

We who live on the out side, have a “normal” life. We go out to eat, places that our loved ones cant. In many cases, not all, the loved ones out here don’t want to burned or make them feel bad that they can not do the things we can. What they don’t understand, is that , they see through our eyes, and in my cousin case, he is in for life, and he needs to see these things. Its what most want. They want to know whats going on with us and our families.

They need to know how the other side of us out here feel as well. To be mad, no, but to feel hurt for what ever reason, yes.

That was so insightful, and beautifully put Peanut2! It made my heart warm and sad just to read it and to think of my son.

I know it hurts him not to be a part of it by being on the outside, but it would hurt more y not being a part of it at all, meaning, no letters from us, no pictures, no contact whatsoever. It would make him feel as if we have forgotten him and kinda' like the, "Our of sight, out of mind" thing.

That is painful and the families should be ashamed to call themselves family at all!

There should also be some programs for these families of the inmates. It would be a part of the inmates rehabilitation. It would help to keep the inmates and their families lines of communication open. But......we know there is "NO" budget for "THAT!"

Be Blessed!

babygurl2009 · #12 (**permalink**) 03-09-2009, 06:38 AM

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Originally Posted by megsy

I was wondering (and been trying to imagine myself in this situation)
Do any of you ever get angry at the fact that your loved one has let themselves down and as a consequence have dragged everyone along with them through this hellish ride of the prison system?

I've been trying to imagine myself in this situation and all I keep coming up with is tears of anger and disappointment if it was one of my own sons or husband.

I think I would feel so let down by them.

I hope this is not too personal a question to ask ..........my apologies if it is.

yes butt if you love them you are willin to do what ever

lulu · #13 (**permalink**) 03-09-2009, 09:51 AM

angel, that was me that posted that,. lol

Angel Without Wings · #14 (**permalink**) 03-09-2009, 01:39 PM

lulu!!??!!

I apologize. I was not thinking when I posted. It was beautiful and insightful and I agreed with you thoroughly!!

Much Love...................................(and apologies

)

Be Blessed!

Angel

sunray's wench · #15 (**permalink**) 03-09-2009, 01:52 PM

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Originally Posted by babygurl2009

yes butt if you love them you are willin to do what ever

I disagree. Love does not equate to doing anything your loved one asks of you, in my opinion. Love is more like knowing when to say enough is enough if you can see they are on a destructive path. Love is knowing your own limits and not promising to do more than you are comfortable, or willing, or able to do.

I love my husband with all my heart, but there are plenty of things I would not do just because he asked me to, and he knows that. He also knows that my refusal would not mean I loved him any less (although if he asked me to lie for him, for example, knowing that it is something I will not do, then I am likely to love him less because he has thought less of me by even asking).

peanut2 · #16 (**permalink**) 03-09-2009, 01:59 PM

Ditto Sunray's.

Angel Without Wings · #17 (**permalink**) 03-09-2009, 02:07 PM

I want to do whatever I can within reason (and sometime not) for my son. He does not want me to do anything that would cause me to go beyond my comfortable boundaries.

My emotions would want me to do anything at all, but my common sense, and willingness to do to the right thing and lead by example is what comes forth.

As a mother, I would want to save my child from the worse and the evils of the world. But we all know that is impossible. That is a part of his growing up. He has to learn just as I did, and in his own way.

Sometimes it hurts.....a lot. But God is good.
Just for the record everyone. I do not really claim any religion. I believe in God and the Bible. The King James Version of the Bible.
So, when you hear me say "God", and I quote scriptures, you know from what Bible they come.

Anyway, You may be willing to do it all because you love someone, but the consequences may be tremendous and a lot worse than the present situation.

Think before you let your emotions take over is what I try to do. I am only human though (smile). lol

Be Blessed!

susie1966 · #18 (**permalink**) 03-10-2009, 09:13 AM

new member;looking for members that has loved ones in pikeville tennesse,prison.i agree with everyone they need your support.my brother was serving a 10 year term for touching his child but with out sexually doing anything he was a first time offender.he had changed his life in prision earned his ged.had seisures,severe depresion and 3 heart attacks!if he was not sick enough,why make him suffer!2 nights ago in the pikeville bledsoe tennesse prison he was murdered!beat to death until he was brain dead!he was my brother and i loved him.he was mentally retarded!if anyone knows anything or has a loved one there have them put someone else,i know steve is with his angels as we speak. i love u brother.little sis

lulu · #19 (**permalink**) 03-10-2009, 09:56 AM

My family is very, family oriented, ( sp?) but there are two things I will not do, lie to the laws for them, or kill for them. There is a time when a person has to take responsibility for themself. Being in prison is what they are doing.

lulu · #20 (**permalink**) 03-10-2009, 09:57 AM

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Originally Posted by susie1966

new member;looking for members that has loved ones in pikeville tennesse,prison.i agree with everyone they need your support.my brother was serving a 10 year term for touching his child but with out sexually doing anything he was a first time offender.he had changed his life in prision earned his ged.had seisures,severe depresion and 3 heart attacks!if he was not sick enough,why make him suffer!2 nights ago in the pikeville bledsoe tennesse prison he was murdered!beat to death until he was brain dead!he was my brother and i loved him.he was mentally retarded!if anyone knows anything or has a loved one there have them put someone else,i know steve is with his angels as we speak. i love u brother.little sis

Hello susie,

I am truly sorry to hear about your brother. My heart goes out to you and your family. I am not able to help you, but, I am hoping that you will find comfort here at wap.

may God bless you and yours

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