Okay first off let me say that I know that everyone is entitled to their own thoughts and feelings.......But

I found out on Monday that my best friend of almost 11 years has HIV. He is gay and very proud of who he is. Well I didn't think that I needed to share this info with everyone who has been to my house in the last couple years. Am I right or should I have broadcast it on my front door?

Anyways I was of course upset and another friend came over yesterday and I had been crying. She wanted to know what was wrong and at first I was gonna lie to her but decided not too. I told her everything and she EXPLODED on me!!!!!!

Now this man and I are more like family. We made a pact when we were 17 that if neither of us were married or had kids when we were 25 that we would have kids together. She was talking about him like he was a walking bag of diseases!!!!!!!

I told her to get out of my house and that I would be okay if she just fell off the face of the planet. She started yelling at me and saying things like "He deserves what GOD has done to him and that this is GOD's way of telling him he is wrong."

This is why I say that people can think whatever they want but do they have to right to degrade the family or friends of gay and lesbian people?

I know that I can come here and even though none of you know me by face or even name that I would hope none of you would judge me that way my so called friend did. I am upset and shocked and the complete hatred that she has for him and what he is going through.

Nobody has to leave any comments I just wanted to basically say that just because someone is different than you doesn't mean that you can make fun of them or hate them. Sometimes those differences can change who you and that other person are. Sometimes for the better but either way I think it that the only reason that some people make fun of or hate others is because they have something about themselves that hate. It's easier to judge someone else than it is to judge ones self..............

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I am so sorry to hear about your friends diagnosis and your other friends reaction. I lost a partner to HIV in 1993 and my best friend from college in the late 1980s (I dedicated a window to him in my church at the time) in addition to other friends and coworkers.

I didnt realize the God hates Gays and gave them AIDS foible was still floating around. I thought we had progressed beyond that.

The good news about HIV today is that it is a manageable disease and your friend has many good years ahead of him if he takes care of himself and partners with his doctors. That wasnt the case when Peter passed and we only had AZT as a medicine, or when Bryan passed and we had no treatments at all.

You sound like a good and loyal friend. Your friend will need people like you in his life during the coming years. God bless you both!

I am so sorry about his diagnosis I am sure that had to be scary and stressful. If I were you I would get rid of your "friend" that exploded on you. I personally would never want someone like that in my life. It is true that there is treatments he can take to live a long happy life and I am just throwing this out there I dont know if you are married or have kids but there are drugs you both can take so that you would be able to have a baby with him without contacting the HIV yourself! :-)

lol No we both are married... He was my maid of honor as I was his. It is a plan to make a baby for him and his partner but it will be with a doctor and it will be his partners's sperm. We don't know when we will do it we just know it is gonna happen. I have three kids.

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good luck with that! He is really lucky to have a friend like you

Hi. I am very sorry to hear about your friend.

If you do not mind me saying, I would not be too quick to throw a friend away. You say that they both were your friends correct? Well, maybe the one friend who thre a sort of tantrum is uneducated on disease of HIV. I know that sometimes, what people do not know is usually what scares them and causes them to behave inappropriately, or just plain badly.

First of all, friends are hard to come by. So please do not be so quick to toss them away because they make a mistake. Granted a HUGE one but a mistake just the same. Give it some time and patience. Try some educating if you have the time. Show love and hope and have some faith in all you do. your other friend needs these things, you need these things, and so does the tantrum friend as well (smile).

Death, illness, chronic illness, diseases, etc. all are pretty frightening. When my so-called "friends" found out that I had Hepatitis C, some thought that I had HIV and I have never heard from them again. Some stayed away until they found out what it was and came back, but I had to make sure I wanted to be around them. I needed to remember to use love, hope, and faith. Some friends stayed and asked what it was and what did I need. They were true friends.

All in all, it is yo that needs to be the good friend. Since we are unable to judge others least we be judged. Be a good friend regardless of how they are to you.

Just for the record, God does not "Hate". It is ugly and evil and a lot of other things that have nothing to do with God.

Love? Now "that's" God. Love your friends. Both of them. See how they like that and it will also make "YOU" feel better!

I'll pray for your friends .

Be Blessed!

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My thoughts are with you, I have lost several friends to AIDS. It amazes me that after all these years we have both str8 and gay people that disown someone with the disease. Its not a gay or str8 issue. Its about compassion and love.

Robert

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Thank you to all of you! None of you had to express your feelings but you did.

Angels without wings i don't know if you read my post about the friend that was pregnant and told me that she didn't want me around anymore. Well It's the same person. I have been hurt by this person multiple times and I don't know if i could give her another chance, you know?

But anyways thank you for the words of encouragement and sympathy. It was much needed at the time!

XOXOXO to all LOL

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I was surprised that someone like you still have a friend like her. I didn't know that those peole are still exists. Her way of thinking is so "RETRO" and outdated. Why using God's name for her own opinion? Thank God these day AIDS is not as deadly as it use to be, it is more cronicals, they can live like forever. I know a lots of people who is carying the virus for a long times. Don't waisted your times for such people, rather spend more with the other one right?

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when he started I was facing the hell and but when he stoped the hell was facing me. I guess 13 is just an unlucky number and it was my age.

Yeh, sometimes freindships end as people change and grow. That is where the saying comes, if you ever heard of it, there is a time and a season.

Your friend has some hateful God going on there. I guess with that thinking these very young children who are fighting cancer, or dying from cancer, God is punishing too?? I don't think so.

Sorry to hear about your other friend, but things are looking up and he may more likely then not, do fine and live a long time and well as any of us whom get a illness.

My father worked in the TB hospital when many were afraid too, they were so afraid of the illness, they hated the one ill.
Same with polio when that happened, only a choosen few were not afraid to help nor did they hate the person ill with it, or think it was Gods punishment.
The unknown always creates fear, judgement and lack of understanding, some just never get it, and pass the blame quick.

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