I have reported his ad, will anyone actualy do anything about it though? I feel like an idiot for not listening to all the people who warned me before! To anyone reading this..... DONT SEND MONEY, DONT GET MARRIED, DONT FALL VICTIM, FRIENDSHIP ONLY!!!!!!!!!!

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Life throws curve balls, get battin and stay strong! Momof6

well at least you now both are aware of whats going on i'm sorry momo hang in there

and good advice they can be awful charming ive fallen under that spell myself a few times (same pal im writting now ) got to shake myself out of it and remember its not real

MOMof5
First I am sorry to hear this happened . You gave a lot ot a person and they abused that .it is wrong .Not only should you report his ad you should contact his DOC and their STG officer . They will help you out . What hi did is a major case in every DOC. He can even face free world charges espcially if he lied to get funds and then passed them along to another person that is fraud and or extortion . This hurts all those who are not running game .
Best of luck in what ever you choose to do in life .

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Hi

This is awful, i am so sorry this has happed to you. You should report him.

I just wanted to add, stay strong, your intentions were good and he abused your trust and good nature.

Best wishes

Fairygirl x

Hey Momof6.. my heart goes out to you girl..
Don't let what happened shake you in any way.. stay strong and keep being the positive person that you are.. and just remember that WHAT GOES AROUND COMES AROUND.. he'll get a good slam from behind from all his dirty playin'.. just watch and see..
Take care and focus on yourself and on the kids for now..

First things first. The ad that this inmate has posted on WAP is not improper. If there was a personal issue between the two of you, that is pretty much all it is - personal. For whatever reason, the inmate has chosen to move on, and the ad placed accomplishes just that.

Secondly, this clearly demonstrates what most of us who've been here for YEARS and have seen such things continually caution against. It is extremely RARE for anyone to establish a meaningful, trusting, and monogamous relationship through mail, telephone calls, and occasional visits. Rearranging your entire life over promises made by someone who will not see free daylight for quite some time is a gamble - one whose odds are firmly against you.

The example here is that another has lost friends, distanced family members, tagged a child with a reminder of the former "lover", and "scarred" her body with a permanent testament to his mere existence. And for what ?

Perhaps this person DID "play" - it's hard to say for sure, since there is more than one side to any story. Spending so much energy shifting blame to one party in the relationship is unfair to both parties. Nobody has clean hands in such an affair.

Think, people. Swallow a dose of reality and accept the fact that these love relationships some of you are trying to establish are a fantasy with little chance of becoming real. Sacrificing your own self-respect for someone who is unlikely to spend much personal time with you on a daily basis is ill-conceived.

Sadly, this is a rare occasion where the failure of the relationship is actually posted here. Most who fail simply fade away, stop posting here, and leave everyone else guessing.

Unforunately when we all try" meaning members,even mods on watching your heart and taking things slowly, it is viewed by some" as we are being to negative.

It is not negative, it is reality inside or out. We are all responsible for ourselves and how much we personally place out there "willingly" heart or other.

The ad placed by this inmate is not improper I agree.

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LD As most know i did time in a very harsh place . i saw this kind of behavior on a regualr basis .In fact I saw a guy who was married running game on a number of women that sent him a lot of money . One of them even waited at the Walls for him to be released on parole . Only to watch him get in his wifes car ! Needless to say both are not incarcerated as the woman had the courage to file a criminal complaint right then and there . It is a free world charge of fraud by deception . Nothing like getting your parole violated on the first day out LMAO .
I have always advised exercising caution when becoming involved with a offender who iis incarcerated even one who is not .
Only to be called negative a hater , that I am jealous LMAO , that I am "projecting" my life on them and things I cannot post . I am n one of the above I am simply stating what I saw and I am sure others who have been in prison will say the same a lot are running game and to be careful
I am simply saying this is what I saw on a routine basis . It is extremely difficult to build a lasting, trusting loving relationship via letters ,monitored phone calls and the occasional supervised visit . You only see part of that person not all of them . I have long said many count on that to scam you .

While it is easy to blame the offender , One has to look at what they are doing . there is a good reason those in the free world are concerned. They do not want to see you get badly hurt .
It is one thing to offer friendship and maybe the occasional few dollars if you are so inclined that is not a big deal as long as you stick with your boundaries . Another to give up your life for them and have your life revolve around prison. That is not fair to you .
They are usually in prison for a reason . and you are in the free world . I have a very hard time believing that many cannot find a free world person to have a relationship with .

If you do want ot become involved with reform seek out a reputable organization and see what you can do to help . You can do a search on line and check out any organization for free. You can Check with the US Government to find out if they are a non profit and exactly where their funds go . That is public info

Please be careful with your heat and wallet when it comes to corresponding with offenders.

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Yes, it is rarer that people post the consequences to relationships, and instead just keep quiet and maybe leave the forum. However, I believe we have seen more of the stories lately.
Perhaps it has given the impression that things have got worse.. I remember reading the other day when someone (I think it was ASE) said that the bad economy had actually reached the prisons and their normal incomes may have dried up lol. I bet that's a consequence of the recession that no one expected!
I wonder if it really is worse, or whether we are just hearing more about it recently (scams).

A penpal of mine is not necessarily trying to scam me for $, but I do feel a lot of emotional demands, and it is a strange feeling.

I wonder sometimes why ASE or others have been done time, made the decision to write to penpals at first... since they know more than anyone the chances of a genuine friendship/relationship may be small... they must know there are some good ones in there too, to decide to write, right?
I hope so anyway!