Hello everyone I'm happy to be posting here on WriteAPrisoner.com. I have been reading some of the threads in the forum for a while now but I did not want to register for an account until I received a letter back from one of the guys I have written.

Well yesterday was my first mail day and I was shocked and thrilled to receive a letter. I'm super excited and would love for this relationship to last. However a few of the things he wrote in his letter worried me.

1. He claims he hasn't had anyone reply to his ad

2. He hopes I didn't find someone else and is glad I picked him

3. He claims he is going to ask writing.com to remove his ad because he has found the person he wants to get to know better

4. He feels as though he already knows me because of my letter

5. He told me he doesn’t have a home to go to once he gets out because his family doesn't approve of his being gay and going to prison

6. He wants to know if I had any idea of what he should do living wise once he is released

7. I am going to school for massage therapy, he told me he would make sure I got all the practice I need.

I know all of these can be rationally explained. However the letter feels as if he could be laying the ground work for a scam. I am going to be honest in my reply to his letter but I don't want to overreact and offend him, especially if all he is trying to do is impress me.

Thank you in advance for the advice. I really love this site and its forums.

I would just reply as normal, maybe encourage him not to remove his ad, that he may enjoy having different people to correspond with. I wouldnt even acknowledge the remark about massage therapy. See how the next few letters go. Its hard to get an impression of a person from 1 letter. I hope it all goes well.

Good advice I agree, StephLL.

Welcome to the forum Tjames

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Welcome to WAP. I assume you are a gay male. His letter throws up red flags to me. Be careful, not telling you not to respond, just watch him. I bet he asks for money soon.

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Hi

welcome at wap
Write him another letter and see how the next letters will go.

Thanks for the advice and welcomes.

I googled his name and found an ad for him on friendsbeyondthewall.com. He has had over 800 views for that ad. He seeks correspondence with female only in that ad, but is listed as gay on this site. I will write him a nice reply letter but bring up some of my concerns. With school work and preparing to start a business early next year I don't have time for games.

I'll try to post on some other threads I don't want to be a leech. This is one of the nicest internet communities I have ever seen, thanks again for the advice.

I don't have the forums saved in my favorites so I clicked my new penpals ad to access the site and he has indeed removed his ad. I was going to send his letter off today asking him not to remove his ad. Now I'm not sure If I should send the letter as is or what? I'm not trying to isolate anyone I'm just trying to make a new friend.

Hey buddy-
It is a shame that inmate go through the trouble of scamming someone from a penpal internet site. When I did my time I did not recieve a single response to my ad eithher as I have also never heard back from any of the ladies I write to. Some of the red flags you have are genuine concerns. Many of those points are points of the scammers that I met in jail. I do know there is alot of gay sex in prison and do not let anyone ever say different. They say it takes and average of five years for a straight guy to initiate his first prison sex although some do it sooner and many never do. Another thing is if he wanted femail penpals on another site then he is definatley a scammer. Most important and this goes for all who ever read this or anyone interested in writing to someone behind the wall that there is a term called "jail-talk" which simply means promises made behind the wall that someone may or may not intend to keep once they get out. Do not agree to let someone live with you on the outside. Its best for them to get on their feet on their own. If they are released into your care they may become dependant on you and never know what it means to be self-sufficient. Good luck James.

Welcome to WAP. I too would be cautios for anyone wbuilding their entire life and survival by just writing one or two letters. It takes for me about three months of letters to know if someone is the type of friend I seek. I need to write a variety of people to get the experience I need from writing gay or other inmates. It is great to feel wanted yet you have to protect your heart and your future until you are ready and sure.