I've been writing this guy for almost 6 years. I have visited him twice. Real nice visits, I'm planning to go back in October. Well, I was...

His release date is Sept. 09. He has done over 20 years already. During that time, I know he has had one incident in prison that set him back almost 6 years for stabbing someone that tried to take his life. The scars are on his throat and neck area, I've seen them. It's obivous that someone was trying to take him out.

Anyway, I got a call last night from a male that said he was my friends cellmate for years, recently at the facility he is in now....said he knew my friend and named the facility he is in, and most of the other prisons he has been in during his incarceration, the caller said he had been released almost a month now and is out in society. He said he called me to tell me that my friend- "likes boys". His exact words were " he is sick", "something is wrong with him, you need to know that he likes boys". He also went on to say that my pen pal had gotten him locked up while he was his cellmate. I remember my friend telling me that he had to get his cellmate out of his cell, he didn't want to be around no homo stuff....I could hear the spitefulness and revenge tone the caller had for my friend. The caller definetly has a vendetta with my friend, matter of fact, I love the guy.

I was taken so off guard by the call that I couldn't think of all the right questions to ask the caller at the time. I did ask the caller how he got my number, he said, "I was his cell mate". I asked him why is he going out his way to call me and tell me this. He said cause you a nice person and I hate guys that play with females like that.

My dilema is .....I don't know what to think or what to do. I don't know whether to beleive or not believe. I don't know whether to call the caller back, I saved his number, and ask him more questions. I know I have to say something to my friend, his life may be in jeapoardy if someone is out to get him, and I need to know the truth, but it's a sensitive topic, how do I bring it to him? Plus, my heart is involved now, so I am feeling alot of things......

To top it all off, the caller hit on me at the end of the call. Said "Stay in touch, I'm here to help you". you're so sweet.

I mentioned the incident that happened to my friend at the beginning, because I think this may have something to do with it for some reason... my gut tells me that the guy is trying to sabatoge his release, wants to set him off. I don't know.
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Oh boy, my first suggestion as tempting as it may be for you now, I would not call this person back to ask more questions. They can say they think you are sweet and all the right words, it will only spin you more which I feel they are out to do.

As far as whether your friend inside like boys" that at this time, love or not is not the issue hard as that may be to put aside for now. If you have been writing your pp for six years with out any doubts in him, the mention of this could cause more problems inside then letting it go and not bring up. I am sure your friend knows his enemys and who will try to mess with him.

You yourself may be the person they are trying to use, hoping you will bring it up, and starting crap inside, for him to fall into a trap. Hard as it may be just stay silent and leave the caller out of the pic, and do not do what he thinks you will. This is a trap for your friend but thru you. I really believe from my heart.

My thoughts from experience I feel is what is up.

What an emotional burden to place on you, is what this caller is really doing, sucks".!!! Don;t play into his hand, for yourself and your friend.

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I really don't have any advice, and I don't really feel "wise" in these matters but I wanted to tell you two things :

- I think Peanut has a lot of experience and his (or her ? I don't know your gender Peanut ) and I think the advice given is very wise.

- I feel for you, and I'm sorry some people are so jealous and mean-spirited that they'd start something like this with someone like you...

Please, keep in touch, and best of luck !

i think it's just a sign of jealousy.

keep your head up whoamitojudge try to listen to peaunuts advice it's a good one.

hugs,whiterose.

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Under normal circumstances... if someone's cellmate knew his celly was into guys but was in a relationship of some sort with a woman... chances are they aren't going to go through the task of finding your number to tell you this just because they are "looking out for you". It sounds to me that maybe your pp did something to his celly, justified or not, to make him want revenge and what revenge is sweeter than to run off a loved one? You should talk to your friend about what happened and get his side of the story first. It sounds like the person who called you was more out for revenge than anything.

Thanks everyone.

The thought of my friend liking boys has never - ever- crossed my mind. I've never had a question about that in my gut. But a lot of guys in prison have sex with other guys and don't consider themselves gay.

I have talked to my friend, when I told him, he immediately demanded I call the number on a three way. He was PISSED. The people that answered said I had the wrong number, no one by that name (the name I was given) lives there. But it is the number he called from, I saved it, so I know it is.

So now he wants to know if I trust him...To be honest I don't know how to answer that.
I do, but, do I really know what goes on - or what has gone on in there. over 20 years? No.
I'm so messed up behind this. I really am.

Thanks for your suggestions Peanut, I will not call the caller back on my own.

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If the caller has been out for 1 month, I can't believe that he has nothing better to do than to start something unless he has an ax to grind.

You had no knowledge of this fella until he called, but you have been writing to your pal for six years and have gone to visit - I would think that would tell you something. Don't let someone you didn't even know until he called put your mind in a whirl. Trust is very important here and you have taken six years building that between the two of you.

After reading your story and the repsonses so far, I do have to agree here with everybody. When you tried to call him back at the phone number on your caller ID, it smells a little fishy to me here. Since he called you at that phone number, you called it back after telling your pp about what went down, why did the person whoever answered the phone tell you there was nobody living there by that name when you know for sure he called you from that number? I'm smelling trouble with the guy who called you about your pp and I'd stay as far away from him as I could. Like Joyfullsoul said, trust is very important here. Please don't let this other person cause any problems between you and your pp.

Daphne ' peanut likes guys too ha ha as a matter of fact she's married to one (wink) yes she's female now for the question bot thats a tough one it would be very tempting to write my pal but as others have said i wouldn't you've gotten some good advice you might even want to change your number I'm wondering if it isn't a CO that may have seen you at a visit that has it out for your pal this is very creepy if the calls persist you may want to call the police not to frighten you but what would scare me is if he has your phone number maybe he has your address too

im sorry i meant boy thats a hard one typo but seriously hon just be aware of your surroundings anything strange call the police and document everything