Hi WAP! How is everyone doing? I hope all is well with everyone! =) I haven't been online in a while. Haven't had the time until recently. I noticed a HUGE increase in new ads! Wow! What the heck did I miss? Lol. Anyway. My question. I was looking through them to see about writing to a few. I only write to one person currently. We've been writing for almost a year now. But, I went through the ads I saw a few that I thought would be interesting. When I went to write my "intro letter" I just couldn't start it for some reason. I just felt "wrong" I guess. I'm not sure I can explain it. There are people here that write to many pals at a time...Ever have a weird feeling that you were betraying your pals....somehow? Ugh, not even sure if that's the right "description...?"

Hiiii,
I'm still pretty new to this, I have only 1 pal and possibly another, but I have a feeling that my first pal... even tho we're just friends.. and it was never intended to be romantic.. I have a feeling his feelings would be a little hurt. So... right now.... he's my only one.. unless... the other pal I sent an email to replies and then I'd have some splaining to do... Good Luck in whatever you decide.

Hi Ballpointblue,
I have been writing to my first PP for over 1 1/2 years. Two months ago, I started writing to a second. Both are very nice and deserving people. But I still feel a pang of having betrayed my first one. I don't know why I do. I have put my first PPs ad on WAP twice, and she gets lots of responses. So why should I feel any guilt? If you find the answer, let me know.

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I understand how you feel but it's important to remember that each pp is different and each relationship is different. I have 3 pp's - 1 is very special to me, the other is a good friend and the third is a very shy guy who struggles with his letters to me but I know that he enjoys receiving my letters and cards. I'm sure your pp will understand the happiness that you bring to another lonely person, as I say to my special pp - no-one can compare to him but I have enough writing in me for everyone!

I recently wrote to another person because my first pal doesn't write very often, and his letters are way too short for me. I felt really guilty also until I got a response back from the second. He is so nice, and even though his ad has been on the site for a year, I am only the second person who has written him. The first only wrote him a couple of times and then stopped. I doubt I will tell my first pal I am writing someone else . I think it would only hurt his feelings, and that is the last thing I would ever do.

I have 2 pp's, one is very special & the other is like my litter brother.It took me 2 months to choose the pp's I have & it was a weird process that I can't explain. I don't feel comfortable with writing to more, it's strange. I gather my needs are met by the two of them...if that makes ANY sense

Elizabeth

Good Morning Everyone,
After waiting over 4 weeks for a reply from my first PP, I decided to write to another PP from the 'not getting mail' list.

Part of me wishes that I had of been abit more patient and waited longer to get that first reply, however will write to both!!!

I think I was afraid that the first one wouldnt write back, and needed back up. A very selfish move.

Linda

In the outside world we have more then one friend... so as long as you do not break confidences or write to people at the same facility then you are just being human I feel.
I never wrote people in the same state so that in case of transfers no one can end up housed together..
it is harder with federal prisoners but you have to have faith..
People are complex and have many interests so that is why we will have more then one friend inside or out..
just my thoughts

I never felt betrayal because I basically started writing to the first 4 at the same time, then I started writing the 5th one a few days later. But I can understand if you've been writing to 1 or 2 for a long time, and then decide to take on another.

Can I just ask, where do you all find the time to write to more than one?

My days go too quickly as it is!!!! Besides which, I would feel like I had betrayed a trust if I wrote to more than one. Just my perceptions

Ian UK