I really don't like posting stuff that goes on between me and my pp, but I am really confused and could use some rational input. My pp sent me a letter saying that I addressed his letter to someone named "Jim". Now he thinks I am writing someone else, which I am not. Maybe he couldn't read my writing? I have not idea what he's talking about and I don't know any Jim, and He Is My Only Pen Pal. Is he creating drama on purpose??? What the heck is he talking about? I don't appreciate being what I feel is, disrespected. I am honest and considerate, and pretty direct with people. I have never lied to him. I know he had a girl write to him and his friend--trying to play them. Do you think he is paranoid and mistrustful??? Is he so bored that he feels he needs to start drama? He wasn't nasty, but I just don't get this. I am pretty upset because I enjoy our friendship and don't appreciate someone thinking I'm one of those women who play. Can anyone tell me something here to help me put things into perspective. I have never written someone in prison before--is this type of crap to be expected?? I think I'll ask him to send that "Jim" thing back to me so I can see what the heck he is talking about. I am p****d off.

Thats what I would do ask to see the proof that you wrote that. That would upset me also I dont know what to tell you about why he would do that...

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Leece, I would write him back and pretty much say the same things your saying in this post...I would also ask him to send a copy of this letter addressed to Jim..

I had a similar situation happen to me however, the roles were reversed...My pp asked me to send the letter I had received...

leece, I forgot to mention something...my pp told me that the mail room switches letters...I was like....yeah right...

But, I mentioned to my brother what had happened and he did confirm that things like that does happen in the mail room...

me being me are thinking 2 things here firstly you are allowed to have more than one friend I mean what if in the free world one of your friends got upset because you are talking to someone else and being someone elses friend

second yes I would ask to see that proof for sure I cant tell you why he said you called him Jim these are just my thoughts

Yeah, and I know he has other pen pals and I don't care. But I don't. Not really for any reason in particular--I just write to him. He wasn't nasty, but he wasn't happy either. Even if the mailroom switched my letter it wouldn't matter. I don't know anyone named Jim!! My pp's name starts with a "J" and maybe I addressed his card to J. and then his last name. Maybe he thought it said Jim. I am going to straiten his ass out, believe me(is that word allowed on here?). Maybe he felt jealous or hurt. He kept making smart remarks about it throughout his letter! I don't know. Either way, I will work it out. It's just that this is the first time I have ever encountered a problem. It's so frusturating to have to resolve things through the mail! I really appreciate all you guy's advice. This stuff is enough to drive me nuts!

I dont blame you and as we all know men at times can be funny and strange creatures lol

Lee - what you just wrote, you might write that back to him, so sweet and tactful that it would make him gag. Be the lady that you are and I am SURE THAT YOU will get to the bottom of this situation.

Warmest Regards,

Fran

Lee, what comes to mind here is if you are feeling like this, confused for a starters. All i think is imagine how your pp must be feeling?. I am just putting myself in his shoes trusting he is telling the truth and that he knows you only write him, then he gets this. Just be honest and i hope you work things out. Having proof from him... him sending the letter back ,i personally think would only cause more problems because it's like you don't trust what he is sayimg to you.(this is only how i would feel) I would explain it here like you have to us asking the same kind of questions to him. Just be yourself.

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Thanks you guys. I am pretty upset...why now at Christmas? I'm not one of those people that play head games because, for real, I don't have the stomach for it. This type of stuff really upsets me. I'll let you know what happens.