Question,
How does it make you feel when you see an old penpal put up their advert again when they stopped writing back to you for no reason ? My old penpal has done so after 'dissapearing' . To me it feels strange.. Should i try write back again ?

Gee i don't know what to tell you its worth a try I'd just say i noticed your in the need of a friend again and thought you could use a familiar one to brighten up your day or something like that .Don't know if I'd be able to keep myself from asking though why they stoped writing

if it was me, i would ask them straight out why they stopped writing to me, unless i had done something to offend them, i think i would have a right to know why...after all they would want to know if we stopped writing to them and why wouldnt they?

This happened to me. I wrote a pp some months, and without any reason no mail....
I was worried in the first place. I wrote several cards to ask, are you okay? Let me know i'm worried. No answer......awhile later i saw he renewd his ad.

I decide to never write him again, and not confront him with the new ad, and asking why? Just a waste of my time. At that moment i was done with it and saw it as his lost.

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To be honest I don't see a problem with that because that has
happened to me.
I guess my PP needed to talk to other people and it took me
a few to find the right one.
Yes I think you should write back.

I totally agree with this. You cant have enough friends. But i think as a friend it's not a nice thing to not respond. For me it feels the same when i dont pick up the phone for weeks when friends call, and i dont call them back.

But on the other side.....maybe there is a good reason! (out of stamps, in trouble, etc)
And i guess after along while not responding it's hard to pick the pen and write again.
In that case i think your right London, just one another message wouldnt hurt.

But i still feel, there must be a good explanation. I dont tread my friends like this (make them feel worried and dont know what is wrong) , and expect the same from them.

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It hasnt happened to me, but if it did, i think i would be more likely to think like Pennylane.
I don't really believe in chasing up someone if theyve made it obvious they'd rather not write to me. Also I would imagine their reasoning is mostly that you aren't giving what they are looking for.
It can happen either way around.

Let's face it, when we loose interest in something or someone, it's a lot easier to just "let it slide"...

Sure, there could be "real" "factual" reasons, specifically money reasons, that prevent our pps from writing us. But, after a long long time, there should have been a way to buy that one stamp.

You can write again to your old pp, if you can take the disapointment of not receiving an answer. Personally, I know I can only take so much rejection, but that's just me

Let us know, in any case !

i would let it go. you gave him a chance to respond and he didn't. one would think that if they were out of stamps or in trouble that eventually they would get some stamps or not be in trouble and be able to write you.

Wow! A tough question, and lots of good points of view, from both sides of the coin.
I think that I would be very tempted to send one last letter/note, telling the ex-PP that you saw their ad, wish them luck and say good-bye. As someone mentioned, if they aren't interested, you can't force yourself on them. And, who would want to?