I'm going to meet my boyfriend for the first time in like 12 days! I like him soooo much but I'm afraid he's going to walk into the room and look COMPLETELY different than his pictures. I've seen recent pics of him and he's very good looking and all but I just feel like either he wont like me or I wont like him (physically I mean). I've never done this before so this is completely new to me. Has anyone ever felt this way??? I'm freaking out as I normally do with every guy I've ever went on a date with lol. I'm not very confident with myself. We like each other soooo much and he says he doesn't care how I look that it wouldn't matter to him but what if he just isn't attracted to me!!! He's seen pictures of me, a lot of them. But like I dont know I just have this bad feeling and I'm freaking out. I think I'll die if he likes me and I'm not attracted to him. I DONT want that to happen because he's amazing, but sometimes you just cant help it. How did you guys get over the nervousness???

geez... I'd be freaking out too cuz im not confident with myself at all ;D but you know, you just gotta meet him and you'll know after that wether or not you like him, it's not that big of a deal, i mean, if you dont like him/he doesnt like you its just the way it is and you can stay friends! cuz it seems it's going wonderfully via letters between you two. of course it's always an awkward situation if someone is attracted to you and you don't feel the same way...but the boy will understand. youre nervous now but i know it will ease the minute you see him, wether or not you like him (physically ;D...) just go for it and have fun ;D! ...im not much of a help , its so hard to explain in english XD..

Um....is this the same guy you're saying you're in love with and are considering getting engaged to?????

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don't get to nervous you will know when you meet.
just enjoy the vissit!!

good luck,siska

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why are you so obsessed w/ the physical? i understand you can not have a relationship unless there is some physical attraction but there is soooo much more than that. if thats the #1 thing youre worried about maybe you need to reconsider your relationship. Other than that i dont have any words of advice besides try to relax and have fun.

I know exactly how you feel as I felt the same way when I met my pp for the very first time. From my experience, it's perfectly normal to be nervous since you don't know what to expect when you get to the prison. One of the things that helped me is my telling myself that he's just as nervous about meeting me for the 1st time as you are with him. When I walked through the visiting room door for the 1st time, the CO's noticed how nervous I was and they were very helpful with getting me through the small amount of paperwork of getting inside to another visiting room. I know its easier said than done, but try to relax, enjoy your visit with your pp. It does get easier to go and visit your pp after you get this 1st visit behind you and you won't be nervous after that 1st day's visit. Have a great time seeing your pp.

I was a nervous wreck a month ago when I met my PP in person for the 1st time and we aren't even romantically involved. Just breath and remember he's just as nervous if not more than you are. I met a girl in the waiting room and she helped me with the paperwork and put my mind at ease and when we got in there she must have talked to her man about me becuase on the way out she told me her man was friend with my PP and he told her my PP was so nervous to meet me for the first time he hadn't slept the night before and was pacing the tier from 8 am unil my visit at 1pm. It's normal to be nervous and don't be afriad to tell the CO's it's your first visit, as long as you are polite they are very, very nice and understanding After you are in there 5 mins with him it will feel like Ol' times. And I agree with Sweetie, if you are so focused on the physical you may miss out on a great opportunity. Good luck and keep us posted!

I think its just cold feet you will be fine let us know how it goes

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I know how that feeling is as well before I met my pp now boyfriend. I was head over heels for him after the first few months of writing but I had only seen pics of him from years before he went to prison (then 17 now 24). I will admit he looked different... receeding hairline, covered in tattoos, a chip in his teeth... but I LOVE this guy so much it didn't bother me in the least. You learn to look through it. If you really love him it won't phase you as much as you think. Then again if you're only in for the physical you shouldn't consider a relationship with an inmate because it's a lot more than that... and it takes a LOT of work.

Ok Babe, here is my 2 cents-yes, you are going to be nervous and that is perfectley normal. As others have duley said and noted though, if its more physical with you, then you should really reconsider(at least the engagement part) because it really is so much more than that. Real love comes from the inside-and no matter what the individual looks like, they will be the most gorgeous person in the world if they truly are in love. Id consider just being a pal and taking it reeeeeeeallll slow, cause this is a big step if u arent ready. startoff by visiting and see how it goes, and how u feel about him. But PLEEZE should u go and find, he isnt what you beleived to be physically, you owe it to him to let him know, and not to give him high hopes. I may be overstepping my bounds, but Ive seen this happen on so many occassions and it really is sad.