WHY THE **** DO PPL GOTTA BE MEAN WHEN I COME AND ASK FOR ADVICE. AND I WAN JUST ABOUT TOLD I WAS DUMB?! I HAVE GOOD REASON TO BE ASKING AND PPL JUST DONT CARE. I DONT KNOW WHO YOU PPL ARE THAT YOU THINK YOU CAN JUDGE ME ABOUT MY LOVE LIFE. WHEN I DIDNT ASK ABOUT MY LOVE LIFE I ASKED ABOUT MY PP AND WHAT I SHOULD DO!! ALL I CAN SAY AS OF RITE NOW IS IF YOU CANT GIVE ME GOOD ADVICE OR ANY HELP WHIT A ? THAT IS ASKED THEN STFU!!!!

extra 2 cents comes with the territory. but barring that, i think you did receive a lot of good advice about your situation. what you choose to do now is up to you. good luck.

YES I DO GET GOOD ADVICE ABOUT THINGS BUT LIKE I SAID NO ONE OUT HERE HAS THE RITE TO JUDGE ME SUCH AS...smilez4u Posted - 18 April 2004 21:4
oh gawd---she has major issues, i won't even comment on that! ugghhhh OR...skatergirl Posted - 19 April 2004 15:45
Hmm...was there any question? I would think the whole circumstances speak for themselves...Am I glad that in my family and in my village everything is quite and just "normal"... LIKE I SAID BEFORE IF YA AINT GOT NOTHIN GOOD TO SAY THEN DONT SAY ANYTHING. AND FOR THAT MATTER WHAT IS NORMAL?? BEING FRIENDS WITH SOMEONE YOU HAVE KNOWN FOR MOST OF YOUR LIFE THAT YOU CAN TELL ANYTHING TO AND NOT BE JUDGED FOR IT ISNT THAT A NORMAL FRIEND? SO WHAT MY HUBBY AND MY BEST FRIEND WERE MARRIED DOSE THAT MEAN I HAVE TO GIVE UP MY BEST FRIEND?I THINK NOT!!
WE ALL LIVE IN DIFRENT PLACES AND TIMES!! WHAT IS NORMAL TO ONE ISNT TO ANOTHER!! YOU ASK A ? ABOUT YOUR PP THAT YOU HAVE HAD FOR 3 YEARS BECAUSE YOU LIKE HIM (AS A FRIEND) AND YOU GET ROOD PPL THAT WANNA JUDGE YOU AND PUT YOU DOWN AND TREAT YOU LIKE YOUR DUMB OVER THE SAKE OF YOUR DAUGHTER!! I DONT KNOW ABOUT ALL OF YOU BUT I THINK THE COMMENTS WERE WRONGE AND UNCALLED FOR! YA KNOW IF I DONT THINK A ? IS A GOOD ONE I HIT THAT LIL BUTTON THAT SAYS BACK AND I IGGY IT!! THATS HOW I GET AROUND THINGS LIKE THAT I GUESS HERE PPL JUDGE YOU INSTED OU UESING THAT LIL BACK BUTTON DONT THAY?BUT I GUESS WHAT CAN I SAY FOR FREE HELP I GOT WHAT I PAYED FOR DIDNT I? SO IN CLOSING ALL I HAVE TO SAY IS USE THE LIL BACK BUTTON IN YOUR LIFE IT HELPS AND IT DONT PISS PPL OFF!!!

smilez' comment was about the other woman. the ex-husband's wife's exboyfriend - or however it was worded. the woman who knows that her boyfriend raped your daughter and who still wants him in her life. her comment was not about you. smilez is one of the most supportive people here. pls go re-read the post and you'll see that she wasn't talking about you.

i don't know the other person. but regardless, don't let one comment drive you away or make you question the sincerity of everyone else here.

WHOA, Dark love!!! Back up, just a minute! Calm down....Smilez was just talking about the woman who still wants the man in her life, knowing he raped your daughter. She wasn't being mean, nasty or rude at all. Smilez is one of the sweetest most likeable, most caring people on this board, and I am SURE if she had one thing to say to you that would make you feel she was being rude or critical, she'd take it up with you via e-mail and not put it on the board for all to see like that. I am sure you just misunderstood things.

Judging people is NOT what this site is about. I think you have seen that for yourself, or you wouldn't have joined the group. What we ARE about is support, respect, and helping others to cope with having a loved one incarcertated. It is a RULE that we don't belittle one another or make fun. Ask anyone, we have seen our share of people asked to leave because of it.

While I can understand your anger because you misunderstood Smilez, this is one of those things that we'd normally take up in e-mail to get straightened out. Then, you wouldn't offend anyone else with your angry remarks about us as a group, before you realized that you'd just misunderstood.

I am not being mean or judgemental here. I just wanted you to know that we're a great group of folks who would NEVER insult you on the boards like you thought. Please accept my apologies for the fact that you misunderstood, and were angered or hurt. It is not the intention of any WAP member to anger, hurt or otherwise upset another. Remember we're on the same team here! : )

HEY!! KNOCK IT OFF!! IF YOU CAN'T HANDLE THE HEAT THAN GET OUT OF THE FIRE!!

Dark Love, I read Smilez post as to be referring to the other lady too.

I am truly sure that neither Smilez,(who is a most supportive lady), or anyone else here was intending to be hurtful to you.

Hell, its challenging enough supporting and maintaining a friendship with our pp`s, with the many "negative" feelings from outside people, without quarreling with each other here.

Gator is right. We are all on the same team.

You sound like a bit of A Drama Queen. Everyone isn't going to write what you want to read. It's a fact!

Why do you write all your messages in capital letters ? I don't see the advantage of that.

It doesn't pay to have thin skin, when posting on a website where the basic premise is going to be globally unpopular among the masses of society.

Having read the responsive posts, I fail to see any personal attack on you. On the other hand, the accronymous "STFU" might be veiled, but clearly intent upon being a universal insult.

Perhaps the best advice has been given. Press the "back" button and take another look at what was ACTUALLY said to you. Reading between the lines, and drawing conclusions is risky.