Hey all, please help me out here. One of my PP's asked me if I would be able to retrieve his former vistims on the internet. I told him that for the moment I would not do this, because I don't know if he has a restraint to keep away from his former victims.
His vistims where all underaged at the time of facts, and they would now be grown up adults.
He told me that he would like to apologize to them for what he did in the past, and he wants to now how they feel about him now.
He claims that it is a part of his recovery to a normal live?

Anyone some advice here, for the moment I did reject his request, but he might bring it up later again.

Loving regards,


Micky

Neighbor :-)))

My first idea would be don't do it. Maybe in some months when you know better your pal (Am I correct that you do not know them that well yet?).
Apart from this, I do not know if this is legal in USA. But this Chiefmod or someone from USA can answer.

Groetjes,

Karin-Belgium

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Kind regards,

Karin, Belgium

Don't even think about doing that and the idea that the people were underaged at the time makes his request even more horrifying.

Trust me, if he's in prison for what he did to whomever, they sure don't want to hear from him.

Absolutely NO WAY!!!!!!
HELLO????? HE has offended against children and now HE wants to contact them to help HIS recovery?
How could HE possibly decide it is all about HIM and what will be best for HIM??

How would you feel if you gave him this info and he decided to traumatise them all over again?

DO NOT TOUCH THIS!

I dont care if I have offended anyone here with my narrow response. HE lost the right to my respect when he comitted his crime, whatever it was, it was against underage human beings and asking you to do this smacks of a self satisfying trip as far as I can see.

dreamer

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~Koori prison song~

Micky, if he wants to make a written apology, I think a better option would be to go through his attorney or maybe even the prosecutor. They should have some contact information.

That might be a long shot but I would personally say NO to his request.

My thoughts would be a resounding NO also.

If these people have been able to get on with their lives after what happened to them, hearing from the person that assaulted and whatever else he did to them would most likely be very traumatizing. If you wish to remain friends, you might suggest to him that you just don't feel comfortable doing that, and if he wants any info on them to request it from his legal counsel.

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I agree with all the above - no way should you do this. I cannot think of anything worse than someone who offended against me as a child or young adult and then hearing from him later on in life.

He is not the one to decide these sort of actions - I really do think it's best to leave this well alone.

I would not go near this...but him saying his victims were underage may not mean he is a child molestor. Maybe he murdered somebody's parents....could be a few things.

Hey all,



I see this topic did stirr out the reaction I wanted? Fot your information, I don't know the PP, because it was his first letter to me. Another thing is, that I was totally shocked about his request, and I want to check if other people did have like wise experiences with thei pp's.
I would never do anything in this direction, but I was looking for reasonable answers how i could deny his request, without hurting his feelings in the future. I surely did get some good tips here, how I could decline his request. I did not feel all to good about his request, but I wanted to see, if some people had the same experience as I did.
You all confirmed my feelings, thank you for that.

Love,



Micky

ABSOLUTLEY NOT!!! This PP is not for you. Obviously he has a hidden agenda and just wants to use you to accomplish it.
I would DEFINITELY stay away from this one. This is a friend you do not need. He will bleed you dry. Good luck and God Bless.