The Mom of one of my pen pals is very ill and there is no hope. The fact is she will die soon. My pen pal loves his mother very much, she is his everything. He wants to visit his mother in hospital and filled out a form to get permission to visit her. The prison gave him the option, he can EITHER visit her in hospital once OR he can go to her funeral, but not both. How cruel is this? He has to make the decision to see her dead or alive. This makes me sad and angry and I am very worried about my pen pal. He decided to visit her in hospital for a last time to say goodbye and when all the other family members will be at the funeral, caring for eachother and consoling eachother, he will sit in his cell being lonely thinking of his beloved Mom.
I don't understand why he can't visit her in hospital AND going to the funeral.

I'm so sorry to hear of this. Please tell your friend that we at WAP keep him close in thoughts, and that his mother is in my prayers, as he is.

While this is truly a decision that no one should have to make, personally, I feel he's made the right one. I'd much rather be near my mother, tell her I love her and try to make amends for any pain I might have caused her, than I would want to be at her funeral where she cannot see nor hear me.

Try to think of it like this: When his mother's time comes, he won't be alone in his cell thinking of her. He will be surrounded with the love of all of us here at WAP. Not to mention his mother will be with him as well.

Lovethatgator, I thank you so very much for your words of encouragement and I will give them over to my pen pal.
I was thinking the whole morning about that and I had an idea. A crazy one? a good one? I don't know.
My pp is Jewish and maybe he could have a Rabbi visiting him during the funeral and they could pray together for his Mom and the Rabbi could help him to get over the funeral time.
I should ask my pp if it is possible for him to get a Rabbi to visit him on the funeral day.

Hi Brigitte,
I'm terribly sorry to hear this about your PP, but I agree with his decision. It is best that he tell his mother that he loves her. And, I think that you have a good idea, in having a rabbi be with him, during this sorrowful time.
This is just one more example of man's inhumanity to man. For people with compassion, in their hearts, it is hard to imagine anyone being that way.
Please give my sympathy and regards to your PP.
Dave

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A few years ago a friend of mine's dad died in a boating accident. Her brother was in jail. The jail told everyone they would bring his brother to the funeral, but before it actually started where no one would be there. They ended up not even bring him. It's so sad that they can do that to people.

I think getting a rabbi to visit with your pp during the service is a great idea!

Its just being cruel for the sake of it. It doesnt make any sense to me. These guys are not going to come out of prison as better and stronger men, because they werent allowed to their mothers funeral. Its just going to cause them more grief and trouble. I cant understand why they feel the need to be so cruel. It makes me sick.

Cleo

I am sorry to hear that.My PP's Father died 3 weeks ago..His Mother<retired form the prison system> called and talked to the prison to give him the message.THEY NEVER DID!!!! It wasn't until he called home for a phone call..he found out..How sad is that?

That is unforgivable, Leslie.
That kind of action, or disregard for a citizen, needs to be shouted from every newspaper and across the governer's desk.
Just remind the S.O.B. that you are a voter, and that you will remember what he did . . come election day.

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Live simply, love generously, care deeply, speak kindly.

Cowards are cruel, but the brave love mercy.

Xray, Funny you should mention the paper, The newspaper were my PP is in prison is doing a story..and He and I are in it...and hopefully they mention this.I hooked the journalist up also with his mother.

That is so sad - sorry to hear that. The Rabbi idea - well I think that would be a great source of comfort to your pp.