has anyone ever when writing a "pal" ,met someone who has intrigued you so, that you became confused as to your feelings for the "pal" you became "obligated"to? just a question out of curiousity..Ive seen this happen before, wondering if anyone else has gone through it and what you did to resolve it..

well Im not sure what you exactly you mean, but I was writing two women and really liked one.eventually I saw in her the need to no longer write to my other pal, and i let her go. i found out later the one i was interested un was married. so i would say just be careful-yes we know its YOU Rose.lol dont even try to hide it! you need to talk you know my email-hit me up

Rose, that happened to me with one of my long time pps. He and I are so much alike that he said if he were a female, he would be me. :-) Because we have such a strong "mutual admiration society" for one another, we made a conscious decision to slow our communication down and keep it on "friends only" term.

Larrysbabygirl,
Hummmmm. sounds as if you are unsure as to whether you are intrigue, infaturated, curious, or in love with your pp('s)?...that my dear lady is a question that only "brutal honesty", about what you want out of a realationship...I am no expert on this subject, but for me, the only obilgation I have is first and foremost to my own happiness, and welbeing...but unfortunately, in any relationship with others, happiness can not be certain...it can be like a coin toss. You never know for sure if you are gonna win... nevertheless,confusing thoughts begin in the mind, a life-time commitment is of the heart. The work in keeping a relationship fresh and vibrant is an obilgation and responsiblity of two people. the obilgation of two people, (one to another), only become contractual, (binding) in a legal marriage. outside of marriage there is no binding contract... if you know what I mean??? Difficult situation it seems you gotten yourself into....Humm...gd4or

justice-thanks, and you are so sure that it is me?hehe dont dance with the devil justice,ok?lol-no, I do not have your email address
gd-yes, you know I know EXACTLY what you mean ...by the way, you have mail dear...
midwestern-thank you!

c'mon girl, you know I am just teasing you.I never gave you my email address,? I thought Idid? be nice to me!!! u cant blame a guy for trying..cutie

I was born confused and never grew out of it.

I find it much easier to deal with as a result.

Tom

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midwestern, what does "mutual admiration soceity",mean??? It is rather early in the morning for me to be thinking, and I'm not the sharpes tool in the shed (duh)...please explain?
babygirl...my mind use to guide me through life...now it is my heart...

gd, "mutual admiration society" means we admire one another therefore it's mutual. Our letters were on the edge and we were about to fall over the cliff so we just had to back up. Takes a whole lot of discipline! :-)

Justice, how did YOU get my email address? did you look it up on a previous post Ive answered???that WAS you right?thanks but no THANKS
Gd-I too, am now following my heart, and all that is within it!