Well I only have one penpal and he and I are very close. With things that I have heard I am very fortunate to have such a catch. But the thing is this as we get closer we ask each other about our involvement with others. Now once our relationship is on another level, I expect him not to write anyone else other than family and friends and he does for me as well. But sometimes I contemplate writing someone just for friendship purposes, but that is how he and I met though. What do you all suggest?

You can always write a female. I do :-)

If your soulmate limits your contact with others, then you should keep looking....

big dog its not that he's limiting me this was a mutual thing....we both agreed on. Novel what do talk about with the female ones.....I mean aren't they looking for companionship as well though

You cannot have it both ways....If your seeking only friendship then it shouldnt be a big deal, if you were truely satisfied with his letters then you wouldnt be contemplating others. I think you should just keep the doors open on both sides, its not right to say..you can only write to so and so....

I Began at one time with many penpals. Some answered me sooner than others thus i got closer to them first. I just happened to fall in love with one of them and at the same time i continue to write the other guys as well. Some of them ive told about my pp love some i havent. I care about all of them and ive shared that with those im closes to. I do care for them very deeply and i cannot lie but i have not eluded to a relationship with them. Now my pp/boyfriend knows of the other guys i write to and it doesnt seem to bother him he just doesnt want me to discuss them with him...I dont.

thanks for your responses as i stated before i'm not trying to have it both ways my desire to write another is just because i know that many are lonely and need just simply friendship that I can offer

Sexy - I would imagine you started writing in the first place because you are kind person with a big heart? Unless you are writing 10+ page letters daily to this one guy, I am sure there is plenty space left in your heart for another friend or 2 or 3...?

Angelus

sexy, I talk about all kinds of stuff with my female penpal. I actually enjoy the relationship a lot more than I did with past male penpals b/c there is no pressure there for more than what I can give. I respectfully disagree with bigdog and dana. If not writing to other men and him not writing to other women is something you both mutually agreed on, then there is nothing wrong with seeing your promise through. (The key word being "mutually".) I don't think there is any such thing as a cookie-cutter handbook for relationships. Every couple is different and every couple needs their own handbook that reads according to what works for them. I can tolerate certain situations you cannot and vice-versa. I am now 32 years old. The chances of my personality changing are nada. So I don't try to change who I am for a man, nor would I. It makes more sense to find a man who is like you in fundamentally important ways. Opposites attract but similars stay together :-)

I think it all depends on when this man is to be released. If YOU and HE are talking about a life together and such, I think I would want to make sure I knew in which way the relationship is going, if I had planned on settling down,I would not want him corresponding with other ladies, he could be telling them the samething as he does you.

Now if he is planning on being there awhile I would let him have as many friends as he wanted,it is a lonely place in there.

Goodluck on your decisions