I have 30 pp's, but recently one of pp moved to different unit. And one of my pp's are on the same unit. What do you do in a situation like this? Do you let one go or do you explain the situation?
chris

Be upfront and honest.

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Chris i think its not a good idea to write pen pals on the same block or even the same facility but this might be different since you were writing both beforehand. Are these male or female inmates? I think under the circumstances you might need to decide based on how close you are with your pals or how long you have been writing. I agree with Skye though its always best just to be upfront about it as they will find out about each other eventually and then might be angry if they were not told. It also depends on the nature of your relationships with them. Is it just friends or romantic interests? That might make a world of differance.

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"Thats it then, they will go on double, secret, probation..."

this actually just happened to me too, one of my PP moved from one facility to another in the same state and is now in the same prison as one of my other PP
basically i'm hoping they dont hang out together and if they find out i'm just going to be honest and upfront

thats all you can do

Personally this happened to me a long while ago, it was a bummer as i felt i needed to stop writing to my new pp for very obvious reasons which i explained to both guys and they understood and were ok with it. The guy i dropped i knew had another from WAP writing him.
I have only a handful of friends through the pen now, and if the situation happened today i would continue to write them both, just explaining it and i would now ask for their opinion before i stopped writing if at all.

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When you judge another, you do not define them, you define yourself.

I think what would make me most uncomfortable is the loss of intimacy in letters. I would know from there on that they were most likely comparing everything I said and trying to second guess my words. I know how men can be lol. It would drive me nuts and I couldn’t do it. That’s just me though.

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"Thats it then, they will go on double, secret, probation..."

I wouldn't stop writing to either of them - I think I'd prob let them both know that someone else I write to is in their unit - but not mention any names? then either of them can decide if they still want to write to you..or get jealous or whatever...
the lack of intimicy could become a problem though - it depends how 'close' you are to both of them..

i wouldnt stop writing to either of them.

I Make it a rule, never discuss who you write and dont to your other pals.

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Yes but Lulu, the inmate was moved and now they are in the same unit. Thats the reason for concern. We are guessing most likely its only a matter of time before they piece it together if Chris doesnt let them know first.

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"Thats it then, they will go on double, secret, probation..."

Okay i dont have a problem being honest, but im close to one of them and i dont want to upset anyone.
chris