kirsty_worsty

you dont feel the same way?

There is nothing you can do to stop him being in love with you. But if you don't feel the same way then you will have to tell him so.

The problem is I do feel the same way, I love this man to bits. I live in the United Kingdom so there is a massive amount of distance. I have so many questions going through my head. I've never been in this situation before....I thought maybe putting my blog out there would find me people who maybe have been in the same situation or could give some advice. xx

Kirsty, it is great to read your post. Don't get me, wrong I don't mean it is great knowing that you are troubled, but you are in the exact same boat as I find myself in. I have so many questions too. I live in N. Ireland and the distance is so great and expensive that I can't see myself ever being able to visit my love. He has no family member that I can stay with, and the cost of hotel accommodation on top of everything else is frightening. If you get any really useful tips, please share them with me, Nette xx

Hey Nette
I never thought I'd see myself in this situation at all, its very over whelming...it's the kind of thing you read about in trashy magazines! What I have learnt though is that it's common for this to happen, so i know i'm not on my own. Where is your love situated? Maybe we could catch a flight together lol...I know what you mean though, I've already looked into my flights and it's going to cost around £500. Luckily for me I will be able to stay with his mum so I will not need to worry about accommodation. I'm sorry that your pen pal has no family you can stay with because that just makes visiting him even harder. I am still looking for advice. The thing that upsets me most is that he is 32 years old and I am 25....by the time he is released he will be 45 and I will be 38. I know that he has appealed to have his years reduced but they disapproved so he is taking it further. It also frustrates me to know that the others involved in his crime walked away. If the people involved in his crime stepped forward then my pen pal would have never got the years he has. My pen pal is not a grass and refuses to tell anyone who they were and this makes me and his mum very angry!! Thats life though I guess you just have to deal with it. I just never thought I'd be here typing this, it's hard isn't it Nette!! xx

Well here is another crazy woman in love with her pen pal (smile). I live in the US but I have about a 14H drive between me and him which I guess I have to be grateful for seeing both your situation. Advice? I dont think any rules apply for this type of situation. We have decided that next month, I am going to visit him and face to face we will decide what our future will bring...it is very hard but I am sure you girls understand better than anyone

Hiya,I'm in the same situation as you guys.I live in the uk and my pp is in usa.He is up for parole in October,so please say a silent prayer for him,well us.I never expected to fall in love but I did,I can feel the love he has for me and even his mum says she can't believe and is happy for us.Well he still has four years to go and I'm praying he'll make parole.He writes to me two to three times per week and makes me really nice cards.I am looking forward to my new life,good luck to you all and best wishes for a great and happy future.Life is not about what we have or have'nt got.Love is all we need.