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  1. Kirsten's Avatar
    There's a thread here where people talk about how to choose whom to write.
    Perhaps you want to join and participate: http://www.writeaprisoner.com/vbforu...01#post1190401
  2. torilynnalmon40's Avatar
    thank u for getting back too me on this know i now what i need to do
  3. PDS's Avatar
    I would just find someone new to write. There are a lot of inmates who are far more appreciative than to just cut you off like that.
  4. torilynnalmon40's Avatar
    two weeks and he took me off of the phone service thing where u can put money and stuff on his books like yesterday
  5. PDS's Avatar
    How long has it been since you received a letter from your pp? It could be as simple as their letter has gotten lost in the mail, or maybe your last letter to your pp could have gotten lost in the mail. Maybe your pp thinks you have stopped writing... This list could be endless with reasons.

    I would personally send another letter to my pp, asking the obvious question, and see if I got a response.

    There really is no way of knowing unless you ask your pp
  6. BobbyScott's Avatar
    you can send them books through amazon or churches and things like that. you just cant personally send them books. yes you can mail them letters through the mail. Once they write you back they can let you know the rules on each individual unit. Ive been on alot of them throughout Texas and they all differ slightly on the mail rules depending on the person running each mail room.
  7. BobbyScott's Avatar
    I finally got a response but its through corrlinks so now I have to wait for that to get approved!! Its all good tho! hope everyone has a good day.
  8. Funkypammy's Avatar
    It’s amazing to hear from someone on the other end of this website, showing that it does benefit those incarcerated. My friends all think I’m nuts but it’s one of the best things I’ve ever done!
  9. Kirsten's Avatar
    Hi,
    it's nice to hear that it helps.
    I'm new to the site and have just written my first letter three or four days ago. So I'm all excited to see what it will bring. Well, time will tell and of course I'm a bit curious.
    I think it's great that you pass on your experience to young ones who ned a listening ear and a helping hand.
    Have a nice day,
    Kirsten
  10. blacktea's Avatar
    Thanks everyone for your replies.
  11. blacktea's Avatar
    Quote Originally Posted by Monkey Joe
    Does your husband know you write him?

    If so, maybe ask your husband to write a polite note along the lines of "I'm glad you and my wife have become friends". Then add it in with your next letter. This will act as a chilling effect on your pen pal to make it clear you are happily married and he can't prey on your insecurities.

    These guys in prison can go overboard and let fantasies get out of hand. So best not to give fuel to it. Do what you think is right. Obviously you realize the moral dilemma, and you already know the right thing to do. Nobody is going to make the choice but you yourself.
    Yes, he knows. But he never read the contents of my pp letters because my husband speak and don’t understand a lot english. And thanks for your advices. I send two letters where I explained my point of view clearly. But I know mail takes time to arrive during the x-mas time, so I actually don’t had a answer.
  12. Cerebralfeminist's Avatar
    Firstly,you should tell him,that you just want to be friends with him.And,you must tell your husband about it.And,trust your heart on this.I mean,you obviously wouldn't want your friendship to get into your marriage or affect it in any way.

    Though,we think little things like this don't affect a relationship,but they do.And,from what you've posted,I guess you are more concerned about the fact that this might get into your married life.

    And,trust me.Call me,old school but honesty still is the best policy.Be honest,tell your husband and maybe,he might have more solutions.

    And,just trust your tiny beating heart.❤
  13. Monkey Joe's Avatar
    8 letters from 1 prisoner in the course of 30 days? Wow.

    That is impressive. And a fairly hefty expense on his part.

    Maybe he's just really happy and excited to have found someone to communicate with... or maybe there's more going on. Whatever the case, you are not obligated to match his enthusiasm. One or two letters a month in reply is perfectly fair. Eventually it will equalize and you'll figure out a rate that suits you both.

    And respectfully, even if he writes to a dozen other pen pals, its not really your concern. You should be happy he's got many people to occupy his time. If he starts asking for money or gifts, then raise your guard.
  14. Monkey Joe's Avatar
    Does your husband know you write him?

    If so, maybe ask your husband to write a polite note along the lines of "I'm glad you and my wife have become friends". Then add it in with your next letter. This will act as a chilling effect on your pen pal to make it clear you are happily married and he can't prey on your insecurities.

    These guys in prison can go overboard and let fantasies get out of hand. So best not to give fuel to it. Do what you think is right. Obviously you realize the moral dilemma, and you already know the right thing to do. Nobody is going to make the choice but you yourself.
  15. Zarchery's Avatar
    Like the last poster said, you have to be firm. Tell him that if he doesn't cool it, you can just find a different pen pal.

    I might even just dump him and get a new one anyway. One of my pen pals (a female) told me that she gets a lot of letters from men on the outside that want to talk about sexual stuff and want her to help them fulfill some sort of sexual fantasy. She just throws the letters away and doesn't respond.
  16. claire18's Avatar
    Hello everyone
    Thank you for your answers. I will try to send a bank check in US dollars. Access Correction is able to accept checks if they are in dollars. I know I will pay high fees because my bank is in France. I do not know how much money my correspondent will have at the end. I hope it will work. I am persevering. Thanks again.
  17. ShadeyBiz89's Avatar
    You have to set boundaries, because if you don't, it's going to be a bigger problem for both of you later. You don't have to be harsh, just be clear and firm that it's friends only and he needs to accept that if he wants to write you. If he really respects you, he'll back off, if he doesn't, then you have your answer, that isn't the friendship for you. What he's doing isn't okay, he is disrespecting both you and your husband, and he needs to know that, just be clear and firm with what you say and his reaction to that will tell you if he's the friend for you or not.
  18. PDS's Avatar
    How do you know he is writing to others here at WAP?
  19. Englishfox's Avatar
    Hi,
    We have the same pp,he is amazing!
  20. Englishfox's Avatar
    Hi,
    Yes,i know what you mean,a little niggle in my head just wont go away,
    After 1 month his letters are often,8 in 1 month,beautiful,yet i discovered
    on Wap,he was in the past writing to 2 ladies,the original visits him in the
    facility in Chowchilla,and swears he loves her,the 2nd discovered this when someone on here said glad he had found someone as he as been on wap forever,and still is.
    It became very heated,for all to see.wow, 2014. was the year.
    How do i ask him if he is still is in the situation,or why is he falling in love with me,without letting him know what i read.
    Im new to wop,how do i deal with this.
    Thanks in advance.
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