I guess i have a opinion on this to which is that wether you met before or after incarceration it takes a huge commitment to be with someone in that situation. It is true that what type of man one may be drawn to on the outside is the same as on the inside. Unfortunatley there are people in all walks of life who are willing to use people. I have two kids who's fater i met way before he went in and he used me to the fullest while he was in and left when he was out we all take chances and learn from our mistakes.