When i got into trouble in 1993 my mom ran the whole range of throwing my life away. I took responsibility and kept in touch. at 76 she reminds me of how I messed up for life yet we are close as a continent away can be. Part of my recovery was writing her to thank her for teaching me manners well though I made some poor choices. I find it awesome that you can share on a forum and that you love him no matter what! Keep in touch, write about those things moms always say even if no one listens, some day he topo will need that family connection. I wish you serenity & peace.