 Re: Has anyone else gone through this?
Sunray that is all too true . Prison is very depressing .I would guess almost every one doing time suffers from depression at times if not on and off constantly . It is a unnatural and abnormal environment . When you start to think about why you are there and what got you there , that is when the demons come out to play and torment you . There is no one to talk to about those things . You can lie on your bunk going over almost every minute detail of your life wishing for that time back . If you chose to you can find drugs to mask it though that comes with a steeper price . The sense of worthless nes is all to true and it stays with you on release . It is very hard to grasp any one will care about you at all . Then you are surrounded by people who do not care about you and your life is usually controlled by those who despise you . . Another thing at least in male prison expressing emotions is a sign of weakness to be exploited .I
That being said . If you have been writing for a while and have some sort of friendship /relationship . Keep writing let that person know you care . They might not write back right away maybe a few weeks they will appreciate you writing them . That is about all you can do .
Another thought is that all to often they have been abandoned time after time one way or another that is part of why they many of them are there . This is more true for women So a person willing to stick with them is hard to comprehend . Sunray is right often they cannot easily express their feelings .
Xray is right in the end they are going to have to snap out of it usually by their own doing a little encouragement helps often more than you ca begin to imagine . Another thing that might be a way to say hello with out a long letter is a card to say hello and you are thinking of them .
Now if you just started writing it is usually best to just move on But if this is out of character and you have been writing a while a year or so keep on writing and maybe if you do not here from them in a month or so call their prison and ask to speak to the chaplains office usually they will have some one go and speak to that prisoner and ask if we very thing is OK that you called and are concerned. Be patient with your friend they live in a very different world than you do . In case you do not know I lived in that world for a long time in the same system Sunrays husband is in on it's most notorious prison . |