Idontknow ~ responses to situations in prison are not the same as they are in the freeworld. If I had a penny for all the times people have said to me "if he really loved you he would XYZ" I wouldn't be working full-time right now!

My husband suffers from depression, has done for most of his adult life, and was one of the factors in his crime. While in the free-world he would self-medicate with substances. Since he has been in prison, he has made huge efforts to stay clean and sober, but this comes at a price for us because when he has a bout of depression he has to deal with it now instead of masking it. Last year was a bad year, and at one point I didnt hear from him for 7 weeks. Even though I know that it is his way of coping, it still drives me mad. He says he tries to spend his non-work time reading when he feels like that, because if he tries to write, he has to start to think, and then he cant stop the thoughts that arrive.

With the mail delays etc, the gap for him was only 4 weeks, but for me it was 7. So if you have not heard anything for a little while, it could be that a letter is already on it's way to you.

Florida Gulf Coast is also right, in that so many guys fall in love with their pals, and then suffer a reality check and withdraw. They dont always know how to understand or express their feelings, and there is no body language to go on either if you're not visiting them. They dont feel worth of your love. If you feel he is, then you just have to keep writing until he sees it too.

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