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Originally Posted by megsy  I was wondering (and been trying to imagine myself in this situation)
Do any of you ever get angry at the fact that your loved one has let themselves down and as a consequence have dragged everyone along with them through this hellish ride of the prison system?
I've been trying to imagine myself in this situation and all I keep coming up with is tears of anger and disappointment if it was one of my own sons or husband.
I think I would feel so let down by them.
I hope this is not too personal a question to ask ..........my apologies if it is. |
Of course we do. [Moderator Edited] My cousin is in prison and she's an intelligent person who was pretty, now has turned her brain to mush and has made herself look 20 years older than she is. She'd destroyed her life through her choices. She destroyed our relationship through her choices. That said, if she ever wants to turn herself around, I'm there for her.
I have made really stupid choices too and I know my family was angry with me because they told me. I thank them for that. Coddling, enabling, abetting and worst of all denying that our family member has dragged us down through their behaviour is egregious.
I know my cousin has dragged our family through the depths of despair and some are no longer willing to help. That's their choice. My cousin and I are talking about it, she's still not willing to admit responsibility so it's a hard road but we're working on it.
Bottom line, in my opinion, if the family isn't hurt by their loved one going to prison for something they did and then don't take them on about the hurt they are still in denial.
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Well, I feel angry about my cousin's choices that split our family apart and [Moderator Edited]