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Angel Without Wings · #11 (**permalink**) 03-08-2009, 04:42 AM

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Originally Posted by lulu

Many people or The word I rather use, is society doesn’t understand, is that when we have a loved one in prison, it DOES effect the whole.

I wondered for many years myself why it was that so many that was lock up lost contact with their families. The sad thing is, they do. BUT, not for the reason that so many think.

It wasn’t tell I spoke with the family of my pals, and even my own family, ( we have a loved one lock up) that I found out why they stop writing.

We who live on the out side, have a “normal” life. We go out to eat, places that our loved ones cant. In many cases, not all, the loved ones out here don’t want to burned or make them feel bad that they can not do the things we can. What they don’t understand, is that , they see through our eyes, and in my cousin case, he is in for life, and he needs to see these things. Its what most want. They want to know whats going on with us and our families.

They need to know how the other side of us out here feel as well. To be mad, no, but to feel hurt for what ever reason, yes.

That was so insightful, and beautifully put Peanut2! It made my heart warm and sad just to read it and to think of my son.

I know it hurts him not to be a part of it by being on the outside, but it would hurt more y not being a part of it at all, meaning, no letters from us, no pictures, no contact whatsoever. It would make him feel as if we have forgotten him and kinda' like the, "Our of sight, out of mind" thing.

That is painful and the families should be ashamed to call themselves family at all!

There should also be some programs for these families of the inmates. It would be a part of the inmates rehabilitation. It would help to keep the inmates and their families lines of communication open. But......we know there is "NO" budget for "THAT!"

Be Blessed!