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Originally Posted by megsy  Do any of you ever get angry at the fact that your loved one has let themselves down and as a consequence have dragged everyone along with them through this hellish ride of the prison system? |
Though I knew my husband before his crime, I hadn't known him for very long. I do know that he was not the best father that he could have been to his sons, or the best son for his parents. I have tried to piece together the whole family story from what he, his mum, his brother, and his ex-wife have told me, trying to keep an objective mind on it all. The fact is, these are all people who probably should never have been in a family together at all, but you dont pick your family.
I dont get angry with him. I dont need to, he feels bad enough about what happened without me adding to it. I feel sad that he made the decisions that he did, which mean we now have to wait so long for our future together. I feel sad that he has caused other people so much pain. But I wont let him martyr his victim or take more responsibility for other people's actions than is necessary.
He asked me last weekend how it could be that I love him yet his family dont. All I could say is that he has not hurt me the way they feel he has hurt them. He didnt do any of this
to me. He just did it. And I know if he could fix things now, he would in a heartbeat, but that's not possible.
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