02-10-2007, 09:44 PM
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| Junior Member | | Join Date: Feb 2007 Location: Tennessee
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Awww Peanut, that is so sad!!! I am truly sorry to hear about losing your pal. Bless your heart! I know that had to be hard on you. BUT... how amazing... he stil allowed you to see and know how much your friendship and kindness meant to him, by allowing his brother to pass along his class ring to you. That is PRICELESS!!
I have no worries or problem KNOWING I would be a pal from now on to anyone. I loved the feeling I got with my former pen pal. Well, I say former as if we aren't in contact anymore, when in fact we are. We just don't write letters since he's out, however, we do exchange cards and things of that nature. We talk on the phone 2-3-4 times a month now, and he's one of the best friends and confidents I have. We can talk about anything and everything... conversation just goes on and on.
I've seen this man come a looong way since I first wrote to him, and I am sooo PROUD that he is doing so good. I also saw what I was able to do for him by supporting him, and being his friend, sharing our opinions with one another, and allowing him to know that even though he felt he was carrying the world on his shoulders... I showed him that someone "out here" could believe in him and be there as a true and sincere friend, without abandoning him, and filling his head full of false promises... just to walk away. And... the wonderful part of that is that it made me feel like I MADE A DIFFERENCE, because I did. It's more than most of his family did for him, and he was really amazed that a "stranger" could be so interested with what was happening in his life.
I know we only wrote to one another for 3 years, but I would still be writing him if he wasn't out. Long term is not a problem for me. Since writing him... I have changed and I feel it's made me a better person... and I want to continue to be that better person and touch someone else's life. (Am I making sense here??? LOL)
Him and I talked this week about me writing to a DR inmate and he thinks I would be a great pal... but he said he worries because of the emotional stress it could put on me. I've thought a lot about it, and I HONESTLY believe I would be fine with it. Life is full of emotions and ups and downs... that's just how it is. We all have losses in our lives, and my pal told me that I shouldn't be afraid to write to someone on DR just because I'm afraid of the emotional side of it... however, he will still worry about me. He asked me how I thought the person serving the time on DR felt... being they are the one in that situation and not me... got me to thinking. And you know what???... he's 100% RIGHT! So, I am going to chose one of the narrowed down list of DR inmates that I have and write. I'm sure it will be the beginning of a wonderful new friendship!!!~ I'll post back here when my letter goes out in the early part of the week.
Also, if anyone else would like to leave anymore, advice, thoughts or comments about writing to a DR inmate... please do so. This is a new experiance for me, and I can use all the help I can get with it.
"Tiffers"
P.S. Sorry for the ramble.  |