Pam, wow, a toughy. I am guessing your friend might be slightly "on the rebound" or trying desperately to fill a void in her heart right now due to the divorce.

I am not saying here that she does not love her PP genuinely and it sounds like she may but....she has never seen him?! I mean part of love is physical and what if once she does, she is not attracted to him in that way? That will be sad for both of them.

If I was you I would suggest taking it down a notch, first of all getting this man to send a current photo just so she has some idea how he looks and then take it from there. But also, maybe instead of rushing into marriage, just go on a couple dates or soemthing? Have a drink and dinner? Catch a movie before writing wedding vows perhaps. Just a idea on some friendly advice you could offer her. Hope I didnt offend you.

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