I am replying on behlaf of my friend who writes a young man on DR. you can never prepare for the ultimate outcome and it will be emotionally draining if and when they get sent ot death....but take a chance in lie. She thoroughly enjoys her correspondance with him and they share some great times. We all have good and bad times in life so share your good times and make someone smile on DR and I am sure in return like my friend you will get so much back from the experience