You poor girl! I know how hurt and angry you must be. I would be too. But perhaps you should think about something before you completely write him off.....

Remember alcohol was involved in at least one of his crimes. While that is no excuse, perhaps the alcohol or even a drug habit drove him to do something like the bank job or his poor grandmother. Drugs and alcohol can cause a person to do things they wouldn't normally. Just something to think about.

As for what you should do. I think you know what that 'inner voice' is telling you to do. I would go with that little voice, as it doesn't normally steer you wrong. Any of the advice you have recieved thus far is good.

I do think you have a good idea about letting him believe that you have lost your apartment. I wouldn't want him to come looking me up if I were you. I won't fuss at you for not using a P.O. Box in the first place, as I know you're kicking yourself for it now.

I don't know what to tell you other than to go with your instincts. They are the best judge of issues most of the time.

Good Luck!!